The Real You San Angelo

Save the date! February 9-10, 2018 – Join Us!

PLEASE MARK YOUR CALENDARS! “The REAL You” San Angelo Feb 9-10 has a new location: The Christian Church of San Angelo. 4064 S. Bryant Blvd, San Angelo, TX 76903. We will be setting up registration soon, so please watch for this!

Our first session is 7:00 pm on Friday, Feb 9th and then Saturday Feb. 10th beginning at 11:00AM, with our last session at 2:00PM.

Saturday evening We are holding The UN-Maskerade Ball beginning at 7:00PM at the same location! This will be a fun dinner dance event, completely unreligious in every way and open to ALL. We are hoping to keep dinner tickets below $10 to make this easy for everyone to attend.

PLEASE MARK YOUR CALENDARS! This will have amazing inner-healing guest speakers and teachers including Grace Cortez-Cruz, Edie Bayer Michelle Cosby Bollom, Teresa Comparin, Kell Bales, Monica Marie Bales, Meshia Arebalo and a special, surprise, celebrity guest speaker yet to be announced – but you will love this speaker!

Please make sure to put this event on your calendars, and we will notify you of discounted hotel rates. Contact Kell Bales, our boots on the ground in San Angelo, or Edie Bayer:

The Best Beauty Regimen 

Don’t look to the world’s standards on beauty. 

Let God be your best beauty regimen

Look to Him always as your mirror. 

 Let God paint your lips with His word, your eyes with the ability to see the best in others, your cheeks with the rosy glow of love and joy.  

Let God cover your imperfections and insecurities with His grace and mercy. 

Nothing makes you more beautiful than His Holy Spirit alive within you radiating out to others.         

                        ~ #LiveRestored 

                          XXOO Michelle Bollom 
Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in. ~1 Peter 3:4 MSG 

A New Level 

Every one of us needs prayer. Not one of us is exempt from needing His loving hand to move. While I eat my daily bread and am faith-filled, Spirit-filled, and KNOW whose I am, there are times that I, like every one of us, am weak. I found myself in one of those moments a couple of days ago. Thankfully, I knew it would pass. I always look to where my help comes from, and that day was no different. However, feelings of defeat, humiliation, resentment, and hopelessness were hovering. I knew that joy would come in the “mourning”, but until that moment would pass, I asked for intercession. I needed God to move…and fast.

As I praised Him and acknowledged Him, darkness sought to take me in. The invitation was clear as ever, and the temptation of accepting it was fierce. I made the decision to go there…but wasn’t allowed in. I resigned to complete hopelessness, with the entertainment of suicidal thoughts lingering, yet it would not and could not penetrate my spirit. My God of refuge and strength, His Holy Spirit within me, was and is truly armor not to be reckoned with. I’ve been welcomed to that place many times in the past, and He’s always plucked me from that abyss. This time was different. This time, I couldn’t stumble in, walk in, or even plummet through.

What does this mean? It means that the hope I have in Jesus, the KNOWING THAT I KNOW, remains despite “feelings”. Of course, I’ve known this for years, as God has proven himself to me time and time again. This time, however, the overwhelming force of His protective shield around me was as evident as the sky above.

Realizing that no matter how much pain I am in, no matter the depth of not understanding “why” things are the way they are, and in spite of sometimes feeling like God doesn’t like me and that I am continuing to be punished for things from so long ago, I can’t go to that place that seeks to devour me. I wanted to go there. I decided to go there. He would not let me. This was a revelation…I’d reached a new level.

Now, I celebrate. I celebrate that He continues to prove Himself to me, level after level. I celebrate that when I may think there can’t possibly be more and this may be “as good as it gets”, He shows Himself in a mightier way than ever before. I celebrate that I can ask for prayer and know that I have fellow warriors joining me. As we each come nearer to the Father, and as we each reach new levels of discovery in the journey of learning who He truly is, may we eagerly choose to stand with one another and celebrate together.❤  
~Stephanie Gable

Can God Trust You 


Here’s the question of the day? Can you be trusted? Christians can we be trusted? 

People are always stating things like if they won the lottery they would do this and they would do that.. or if they made more money they would this, that and the other..but the ultimate question is can you be trusted? We all want God’s blessings but can He trust us enough to bless us?

Let’s be honest no one wants to be in a relationship with anyone that they can’t trust. Whether it’s our husband,wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, we want to assume that we can trust our mates and they will not lie, cheat or steal from us.

Even if it’s something as simple as employment, we want to be able to trust our employer to tell the truth about the possibilities in making more money in our career or even a promotion.

In most of our day to day lives we pretty much demand honesty and trust from everyone that we encounter.

Some people wonder why they are not where they should be in life and they want to know why they are not being blessed, but God wants to know that He can trust us.

Example: If He blesses us with a ministry would we continue to push the ministry to the fullest or would we take shortcuts or delegate the ministry to someone else?
Example: If He blessed us with expensive cars,bigger homes or a better job will we remain humble and continue to help others who are less fortunate?
Luke 12:48 But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.

Understand that the more God gives us more is REQUIRED from you.

Scripture used for today’s devotion:

Job 1:7-8

7 The Lord said to Satan, “Where have you come from?” Satan answered the Lord, “From roaming throughout the earth, going back and forth on it.” 

8 Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.” 

In this verse where Satan looked for someone “righteous”, Jesus said, ” Have you considered my friend Job?” Most people have always admired the scriptures of Job because it taught us as Christians about patience and endurance but if we really think of this passage closely – Jesus REFERRED Job to Satan because he was TRUSTWORTHY.  Jesus knew that Job would do whatever to serve Him regardless of what trials and tribulations that he experienced

 Job lost his children, his livestock,property, dignity and some parts of his mind, but he was trustworthy because of his faithfulness to God.

So going back to the subject:

Most of us are known to stay faithful and trustworthy to God when we need something, but He is waiting on a steady commitment. With alot of us we are looking for a quick fix type of God. When most of us are down and out it’s really easy for us to stay faithful to God. When we experience deaths in the family, job loss, when bills are due we become really close with God.

He has the power to do all things for us but can He trust you? Walking with Christ is not a sugar daddy type of relationship where you only call on Him when you need Him, He needs a real commitment from you. ~LaNette Kincaid 
 {Sidenote: A sugar daddy is someone that only came around when you called him and he would pay and handle everything lacking for you. The sugar daddy wasn’t to serve any other purpose other than to handle bills and business-no real relationship. Also known as “The big spender”or a pimp}
Women With Gifts is an organization that promotes women to use the gifts and talents that GOD has given them for survival. Our organization believes in leadership development, teaching and motivating others. Essentially, we are the products of the seeds we’ve sown. Growing Roses from a Briefcase is an inspirational motto we use that means we are believers and we have the ability to do anything that we put our minds to. Growing roses from a briefcase sounds difficult but “WE can do all things through Christ who strengthens US.” Philippians 4:13
LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s business and inspirational tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid

The Definition of Mother 


Moth’er – n. A female person, esp. one of the human race. b. Ancestress. 2. That which produced OR nurtured ANY thing: source of birth or origin. 3. a. A woman in authority or dignity like a mother, b. used specific as a title of a woman head of a religious house. 4.a. maternal tenderness or affection. b. to adopt or care for a child. c. To acknowledge affection and care for a child.

Mom, Mommy, Mother, Mama. The name holds strength and stability. As I studied each definition of Mother, I realized only ONE gave the right to birthing a child. The name means unconditional love and a place to fall, rest ….. without judgement, it means to teach and lead in spiritual truth. It means to love through every phase of rebellion, through any disagreement.

To this day, this very moment ….. I’ve never had that safe place to fall. I’ve never had that Mama I could go to with anything. If you’ve had to do without that kind of joy and stability, you surely know what a lost feeling that is.

God has tremendously made up for this loss in my life. I am Mama to four beautiful and wonderful boys. But I have other children too. Although I’ve always thought boys were my expertise, it’s amazing to me how out of all the other “kids” who call me Mama, almost all of them are young women. That’s not to take anything from their maternal moms. Not at all. But somewhere along the way, I’ve acquired something I can contribute to their lives. I can be a place of refuge and hopefully of Godly, sound advice, when there’s no one else who understands.

Every hardship, every trial, every thing we believe to be an injustice in our lives, can be used to God’s glory! 

I would encourage each of us older ladies to seek out at least one of these young women who are beginning the journey we started long ago. Keep in touch. Encourage them, show them the way and give them advice.

When Godly women lead the way, we can make a difference ,,, in turn, when the blind lead the blind, the world is also changed. 

~ Sandra K. Yates 

Joy Is A Choice 


Good news!  We, here at Restored Ministries are lowering the disco ball for today’s Song Sunday!  


My current song obsession is Lincoln Brewster’s Live to Praise You

Take a quick dance break and then read my song story…


Recently, I attended a women’s conference held by my church.  Having worked as a volunteer earlier that afternoon, I knew already that I was already assigned to Table 11.  So that evening at the designated time, I went to, well, Table 11 and sat by a new friend I had been wanting to get to know better.  Awesome!  But, then, after looking at the table list, I realized that, since that afternoon, my name had been marked off of the roster for Table 11.  It was done in ink pen, so you know it was final.  Weirdly though, within a minute, I happened to see another good friend of mine walking by, so I said hi to her.  She looked in confusion at me and asked why I was sitting there – she was a table leader and said I was supposed to be at her table.  Sure enough, my name had been written on her roster in ink, so you know it was final.  Instead of getting flustered and wondering what happened, I had the immediate thought wondering if God was up to something.  I was intrigued by what the weekend would hold.  When things “happen to” change at the last minute, you really should start looking around for Him.  


Among a lot of great women at my new table, I met a new friend, Chris.  Part of our table discussion Friday night involved ‘morning people’ and ‘night owls’ and the plight of the young mommies in our group who were just hanging on for dear life for whenever they could find sleep – morning or night!  Chris indicated that she was a morning person and felt that her cup got filled up during the night.  Yes – definitely a morning person.


Fast forward about twelve hours:  Saturday morning rolled around way too early and I went in search of coffee.  My roommate and I had stayed up way too late (early) talking, so at this point, I think I must have looked like Frankenstein – imagine arms extended forward, making unintelligible moaning sounds as I drug my heavy feet towards the dining hall.  I just “happened to” meet Chris on the way in.  Y’ALL!  She had sooo many words!  So many.  So early.  I made the grouchy joking comment that she reminded me of that bird that sings outside your window in the morning…you know the one…who starts his crazy, joyful song about 10 minutes before your alarm is supposed to go off.  My comment didn’t even faze her a bit.  She giggled and took it as a compliment.  That girl was JOYFUL!  I promised her I’d be closer to her cheeriness once I’d had my coffee, too.  She laughed and said she hadn’t had any yet and bounced on off leaving my mouth hanging open.  Her response to being out of her element and among unfamiliar people? To mornings? Exultant joy.


It got me thinking:  As Christians, what should our responses be to…?


• Illness
• Inconvenience
• Traffic
• Dead end jobs
• Screaming toddlers
• Less than ideal relationships
• Rejections
• Loss
• Situations that don’t change no matter how much we pray


All of a sudden, I was filled with these questions:


• Illness – What if God is using illness to bring us to a place of rest and reliance upon Him that we would never get to in good health?
• Inconvenience – What if we were about to miss something BIG that God wanted to show us, so He had to temporarily change our direction for the day?  
• Traffic –What if your morning commute is a gift of time meant for us to use, spent in prayer for our day or praise and worship to God to remind us of how good He is and how much He loves us?  What if we looked at it as “I get an hour with God every morning on the way to work.”? How would that change our day’s perspective?
• Dead-end job – What if God is allowing your dissatisfaction in your current job because He has prepared a better one for you – one in which you could actually use the giftings He has given you?  What if He built in a lesson that you need to learn there before you are ready for the new position He is preparing?  What if there is a person at your job you are supposed to witness to?  Would that put a little more intrigue into your ho-hum job environment – the search for God at work in your place of business?  What if someone was actually noticing your “as unto the Lord attitude” and was wondering what was different about you?
• Screaming toddlers – God knows that your life is not your own when you have small children.  What if a temper tantrum in the grocery store (I hope we are talking about the child’s, not yours) is an indicator that maybe you are trying to fit too much into this day?  What if putting them and yourself down for a nap or putting them in the stroller and going for a walk outside to calm them down is what He is prescribing for your mental and physical health, as well? 
• Less than ideal relationships – (Disclaimer: I will try to tread lightly here because there are so many situations that require more than a generalization, for sure.  Let’s also be clear that this is not in any way directed at the subject of a marriage relationship.) What if that betrayal was allowed because of God’s dissatisfaction with the relationship?  Not in an “I’m mad at you” kind of dissatisfaction, but an “I want better for you” kind of dissatisfaction?  What if there was something (on yours or the other person’s part) in the relationship that is not God-honoring?  God always goes after that part first.  What if God has other, more beneficial relationships in which He wants you to place your time, energy and affection?  
• Rejections  What if this rejection is a visible sign of God’s protection of you?  What if that place you want to put yourself in so badly or that relationship to which you want to cling so tightly is not of God’s choosing?  What if He wants you to place the whole thing on His altar?  What would happen if we actually believe that God is outside of time and can already see the consequences of that path we think we want?  Is it wrong for a Father to want better for His children?
• Loss – What if? Why? Why me?  None of us have the answers this side of heaven as to why God allows what He does.  But, after the loss and devastation occurs, the pain subsides a little and the feelings, previously numb, start coming back to life, we can begin to ask different questions.  God, what purpose, what plan did this accomplish?  Will You show me the good I should be looking for in what happened here?  Is there someone who was helped by the way I responded to You in the midst of this terrible pain?  The act of Jesus leaving the ninety-nine sheep is painful if you are one of the 99.  But would you fault Him for that if that one, lost sheep was yours?  There are people who repeatedly push aside and run away from any and every thought of God’s love until they are face-to-face with death and loss.  Sometimes, they will come by no other means, than pain.  What if that lost sheep was yours? 
• Situations that don’t change no matter how much we pray– What if God deals with us in much the same way we lovingly parent our children?  There are so many times we, as parents, tell our children “No”, “Not yet” “Wait” and “Soon”.  The smaller the child, the less understanding he or she has when told “Not yet”.  Maybe a temper tantrum will ensue, but we can see a little farther down the road of choices and consequences than they can, so we keep them in a holding pattern, of sorts, until that just right time comes.  So why then, do we fault God’s loving intentions when He does, basically, the same thing with us and our requests?  Why do we doubt that He is anything other than loving in all His actions toward us?  Is it because we are not getting our way?


Back to my friend Chris and why this is important.  Chris’ reaction to my grouchiness and my song Sunday choice both bring me back to one thing.  JOY IS A CHOICE.  Just like the birds whose joy can be too much for those living without it, just like Chris’ response to morning, just like our response to what life throws at us…Joy is a choice.  Always.  What if every single action God took toward you was out of goodness?  What if only goodness flowed from Him toward you?  Would it shock you to know that it does?  With mercy and grace thrown in for good measure!  Now, let’s all check for what our correct response should be and, like the birds, like this song, respond with JOY!

     ~Debbie Bouckley 


Live to Praise You

Day after day You never change
Ever the same, there is hope in Your name
You are the fire that’s burning bright
Ever You reign so we’re lifting You high

Come on somebody
1, 2, 3, hey!

Everybody shout, make it loud
All of heaven sing, hear the sound
Let the praises ring, Your renown
Everyday we live
Everyday we live to praise You
Everyday we live to praise You

Breath after breath we’re so alive
Ever we’re changed ‘cause You rescued our lives
The First and the Last, no one in between
Ever the King, You’re the song that we sing

The joy of the Lord is our strength!
The joy of the Lord is our strength!
The joy of the Lord is our strength!
The joy of the Lord is our strength!


Nehemiah 8:20 (B)  “the joy of the Lord is your strength.”


Galatians 5:22-23  The Holy Spirit produces a different kind of fruit: unconditional love, joy, peace, patience, kindheartedness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, and self-control. You won’t find any law opposed to fruit like this.


Luke 15:4  What man of you, if he has a hundred sheep and should lose one of them, does not leave the ninety-nine in the wilderness (desert) and go after the one that is lost until he finds it?



Presenting ourselves 
Framed and flowery
Living our lives…
Concealing reality
Disguising the truth
We play our roles
Instead of releasing the tears
Hidden behind
Our pompous mask
We camouflage 
We make believe 
We camouflage 
Remain deceived 
Covering up
The flaws we loathe 
Painting over
The scars and holes
In our minds
And in our souls 
We camouflage 
Our hearts and hopes
Existence in pretense
Land of denial
Betraying ourselves
Refusing to acknowledge 
Deception disabling
Our very portrayal
Our reflection unable
To mirror
Any image to exemplify
Therefore, we camouflage 
Salvaging the pain
We try to exclude
Ourselves from any truth
The vulnerability 
We entertain
Decorating and adorning
Instead of offering
The beating heart
We hide within
The camouflage 
Just who we are
With human frailties 
Committing sin
Against ourselves
By always
To be someone else.

❤️Krystal Lynne 


Strong Girl

Once upon a troubled time, along life’s bumpy road,

A woman found herself alone, beside a heavy load.

Burdens tossed, abandoned; she stood in disbelief 

And for a moment, dropped her head and sobbed amid her grief.

But tears, she learned, did nothing to make the burden light

And so she reached, and grabbed the burden – tugged with all her might.

It barely moved, she didn’t have the strength that it would take

To carry such a burden; there was so much at stake.

“What do I do?” she whispered, peering through the mist

But alas, no one appeared.  She was alone in this.

“Chin up, jaw firm, eyes ahead!” This chant became her theme,

And suddenly the load was not as heavy, so it seemed.

She put her back beneath the weight, and slowly then, it moved

And she began to walk along.  Her own strength she proved.

With every step, her strength improved, and she began to smile

Her confidence began to grow with every passing mile.

The brilliant sunshine warmed her face, then faded into night

But she kept walking, knowing with the dawn, there’d be more light.

The night was long and very dark, and danger lurked nearby

The woman kept on walking, scared to death but head held high.

The storm would come, the wind would blow, and whip the load around

Sometimes she cried and yelled aloud; sometimes she made no sound.

And all the while the strength that once was too hard to obtain

Grew and grew and she stood taller, strong beneath the strain.

The road could be so merciless, sometimes a storm’s attack

Added to the burden that she carried on her back.

Another weight, another task, a trial to be borne

She cried and staggered, almost falling, discouraged and forlorn.

“But wait,” she said, remembering, “I’ve walked this road a while,

And I have gained a lot of muscle, along each grueling mile.”

And so she put her back again, against the load she bore,

And much to her surprise, it lifted, easier than before.

The days wore into weeks and months and soon, when troubles came

She would eye the trouble, smiling, “Are we doing this again?”

Travelers who met her, as they journeyed on her path,

Would say, “How do you do that?” and she would simply laugh.

“I want to say I do not know but that would not be true.

I simply keep on walking, just the way you do.”

You might know a woman who seems to be so strong

She didn’t plan to be that way, but then, walking along

She very simply chose to live in joy instead of pain

She may not even think of it too much, unless there’s rain

Or storms, or falls, or bruises, but just as she’s done before

She’ll stagger, gain her balance, and carry on once more.

In her heart, although she’s strong, she’s still so much a girl

Strong girls bring the best of strength and sweetness to the world.

So if you are a strong girl friend, I know you understand.

If you know one, you don’t have to ask to lend a hand.

Just pray for happy traveling, and a mostly sunny sky.

And if you like, snap a salute when she goes marching by. 

~ Alane Roberts 

50 Shades of Grey Happens


“Fifty Shades of Grey” hits theaters on February 14, 2015 this year. Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to share this inspiring movie with your special someone. This movie is based on the best selling book, “Fifty Shades of Grey”. It perfectly demonstrates the true love that emerges between two people emotionally connecting all the while trying to find their ways in this world.


Hold it right there!!

Have I read this book??

So! I’m really not the best one to give advice on a movie I haven’t seen or a book I have not read.
However, these facts I have read.

To be fair I’m not the expert. I’m just a mom who cares about our kids and this future generation. Hoping they will learn to connect with each other in healthy respectful ways.
Of course you can decide based on your own beliefs or lack of beliefs about the appropriateness of these books and future movies.

-Junior high and high school girls are reading these series of books in huge numbers.(ages 12-18)

– Many Christian moms and grandmas are reading it and going on to read the next two books in the trilogy to complete the story without any moral discussion or objection (ages 19-90)

I learned this from Wikipedia:
The second and third volumes, Fifty Shades Darker and Fifty Shades Freed, were published in 2012. Fifty Shades of Grey has topped best-seller lists around the world, including those of the United Kingdom and the United States.The series has sold over 100 million copies worldwide and been translated into 52 languages, and set a record in the United Kingdom as the fastest-selling paperback of all time.

It’s spreading like wild fire!!

It has been penned, “Mommy porn” and is considered a forerunner in creating a new genre with the same name.

Changing the literary scene.

*The owner of the Damson Dane Hotel opted to replace all the Bibles in the hotel nightstands with Fifty Shades of Grey.

Making a spiritual statement

*Sales of duct tape, cable ties and rope at a hardware store skyrocketed after the books release in Pennsylvania thanks to the bondage scenes in the book.

Hardware stores profiting

*The author writes her sex scenes to music. She said, “I have songs that I write the sex scenes to. One of them is the Black Eyed Peas song ‘Sexy’ That is a very sexual song.

Music matters

*Sex toy sales went up drastically since the book came out. Sales of love beads or “smart or love balls” alone have went up 400% after Anastasia Steel enjoyed them in the book.


*The books were developed from a Twilight fanfiction, originally titled Master of the Universe. James removed her fan-fiction from the various websites after comments were made about the sexual content concerning characters Edward Cullen and Bella Swan. After its removal, James rewrote and extended her story, making it an original trilogy.

Why it’s called “Twilight for Adults”.

*Fifty Shades of Grey has actually been banned from several libraries in the United States due to it’s graphic nature and not ‘meeting guidelines’.


* These facts above were found on Sliptalk
21 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About “Fifty Shades Of Grey”

Let me introduce to you the theme that the movie is centered around.


I had to look it up to see what it stands for and means.

(I’ve been a little sheltered)

1: Sadism and Masochism

The practice of using pain as a sexual stimulant. Some variants of S&M include:

And so on…. A to Z.

Well, I’m not going to list what it includes. Honestly it’s just not appropriate. If I can’t say it around my teenagers without blushing that might be a clue. These are actually real activities that may appear innocent at first but lead to emotional, physical and spiritual bondage. They don’t call it bondage for nothing!!

The experimentation of S&M does not bring couples and marriages to a closer connection of intimacy and a respect for each other.
I am sure that even Dr. Phil would agree with me on this one.
This may be an issue of debate but remember I am choosing to see or not to see the movie based on my choice of what God’s Word says about the matter.

What does the Bible have to say?

I have no idea specifically so let me do some research.

Romans 12:10

10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

Philippians 2:3

3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.

Okay, seriously there are so many verses that discuss respect, honor and common sense of the do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Go for it!! You google it. I got enough with the first two.

The Golden Rule makes a good case for discussion.

How about just good common sense.

As I said earlier the movie centers on the theme of S&M. The main character Christian Grey (an interesting name for his character) is a incredibly successful and wealthy young entrepreneur who meets Anastasia. She is intrigued by his secret life and is drawn to him. Like many young ladies she finds herself falling for him and compromising her values and conscience to keep an on going relationship with him.

You don’t have to stick your head in a pile of 💩 to know that it really is poop.
Just take a sniff and let your senses be your guide.

I give Fifty Shades of 💩
Three thumbs down with a long pointy finger leading folks to:

Disrespected &

In my opinion, this is what you sign up for if you read or watch “Fifty Shades of 💩”.

Keep in mind the scripture verse below. Since we are dealing with a young fan base of readers and watchers, let’s take a look at the Message Version.

Philippians 4:8 The Message (MSG)

8-9 Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

Would “50 Shades of Grey” meet the criteria above for things to think or ponder upon??

Important Headline:
Before we throw anybody under the bus who may have been involved in these activities or currently engage in them. Or perhaps out of curiosity read the books or watch the movie.
How about we have an open loving discussion with them.

It could go like this:

There really is no need to inflict pain on oneself or anyone else. Jesus paid it all on the cross. He took the whips, the beatings, the torture so we wouldn’t have to suffer here on this earth.

The enemy so brilliantly convinces people that pain will give them control over their struggles and shortcomings. A false relief that in reality brings more pain.
This is a lie some choose to believe. All one needs to break the lie is the truth. The truth sets us free!!

This verse in the Old Testament is speaking of our Messiah to come.

Isaiah 53:5
New Living Translation
“But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed.”

The truth is Jesus came to set the captives free so we don’t have to reenact the captivity and bondage.
We actually have the capability to be set free from our sins and bondage by allowing Jesus to carry our sins to the cross for us.
It’s not necessary to read or watch the book or movie just to be innocently entertained, if you think it doesn’t affect you, I am sorry to say you are being deceived. I personally do not want the images, emotions or thoughts in my head related to such a dangerous slippery slope.

You decide whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are just and worthy ….think on these things.

Light On,
Kelley Allison




Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for another who is stricken by misfortune, accompanied by a strong desire to alleviate the suffering.

Mark 6:34
“When Jesus went ashore, He saw a large crowd, and He felt compassion for them because they were like sheep without a shepherd; and He began to teach them many things.”

In 2008, I was visiting a women’s shelter in Sacramento, CA and I was in awe…I could not believe how many mothers with children lived in a shelter! Most importantly I could not believe how many women were turned away.

The same day that I visited the shelter, one woman received what I thought was very sad news. The shelter could not house her, so she was turned away. That woman tried her best to explain her plight. She tried her best to get a warm place to sleep. She tried, and failed. I could not believe what was going on…with my very own eyes- I thought what if I was her. So in response to what I saw I wrote this…

What if I was her?

I heard the meek voice of a twenty something year old woman and it said
I am homeless and I have no bed
I thought what if I was her?

My parents died when I was only age nine- I have nowhere to go-but outside
I thought what if I was her?

My husband raped me, cheated on me, and then he left me…oh I forgot to mention he put his hands on me
I thought what if I was her?

I recently got laid off, living paycheck to paycheck and I have not saved enough- and my bills, I cannot afford the cost
I thought what if I was her?

I am out in the cold, nowhere to go-no job- for money my body I have sold
I thought what if I was her?

CPS just took my son, I have lost my child and to talk to you …I have walked 20 miles
I thought what if I was her?

I have contracted a disease, one that will not leave me
I thought what if I was her?

I heard this woman go on and on about her situation, she was very persistent; yet this woman was ignored as if she was not in existence.
I thought what if I was her?

Finally, I looked up
I made eye contact with that women, I vividly remember the day
However the person she spoke to had no room for her and had to turn her away

I thought what if I was her?

As I re-read the piece that I wrote. I am saddened by how I felt that day. A tear drops down my cheek because this woman desperately needed help, she needed love, she needed shelter, she needed…she needed..she needed. That day I decided that I had to somehow add value to the lives of the women in the shelter…I didn’t thoroughly think through what needed to be done- I reacted. I had a strong desire to alleviate someone’s suffering.

The best way for me to help was to leverage the resources that were within my reach. I was connected to many females based organizations. I decided I would:
Host Sacramento’s Little Black Dress Event- “a clothing drive for professional attire to get the women prepared for the workforce”
Renovate “THE BOUTIQUE” By partnering with local stores that would donate the materials to upgrade the space.
Market the Shelter: It was necessary to connect with the community and local media to help bring awareness of the need to support women that often fall victim to life’s situations.

I leveraged my membership with the junior league and turned vision into action. A section from the article I wrote is below:

“The theme of this event was Celebrate! The event was a women empowering women celebration to dress for a cause in wearing little black dresses. We encouraged women to “Celebrate Life, Style, Purpose, and The Spirit of Giving” by donating wearable professional clothing to The Depot Boutique. Guest speakers addressed each individual theme and the night ended in a fabulous fall fashion show.
In three weeks of planning, we connected with other female based groups, sold over 180 tickets, 10 display tables, and scheduled several radio segments. Most importantly, we received over 200 professional outfit donations, and 2 grants from local corporations!”
I inspired about 10 women to join my planning team. And we successfully reached more than 200 people in three weeks, and awesomely touched thousands. At the time our task was ambitious; but we genuinely wanted to help and we did.
I think back to that situation which examples how GOD shows amazing compassion for the sick, lost, helpless….He shows true compassion for all. Although I like to think that I displayed a great deal of compassion by helping the woman/women at the shelter…My compassion is conditional it often occurs on “my terms.” Honestly I feel compassionate sometimes and other times I don’t. Compassion is an area in which I am weak and I am trying to grow strong. Join me in gaining strength in this area.

What is one area in your life that you know you need to exercise more compassion?___________
What will you do daily to make that change?_________________________________

Read this daily.
God I need to show compassion in this area __________________________ area of my life and I commit to ______________________________________________________________________.

Commit to the change. I DARE you.

~ Lereca Monik