December Daily Declarations 


12/1/16 I am peaceful Isaiah 26:3 You will keep the peace, a perfect peace, for all who trust in You, for those who dedicate their hearts and minds to You. 

12/2/16 I am content Philippians 4:12 I have learned the secret to being content in any and every circumstance

12/3/16 I am self-controlled 2 Timothy 1:7 God didn’t give us a spirit that is timid but one that is powerful, loving, and self-controlled. 

12/4/16 I am patient James 1:4  If you let patience work in you, the end result will be good. 

12/5/16 I am focused Proverbs 4:25 Focus your eyes straight ahead; keep your gaze on what is in front of you. 

12/6/16 I am blessed Ephesians 1:3 He has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing that comes from heaven.

12/7/16 I am kind Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and helpful to one another

12/8/16 I am balanced Proverbs 11:1  An accurate scale is His delight. 

12/9/16 I am delivered Colossians 1:13 He has delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of his beloved Son

12/10/16 I am joyful Romans 15:13 May God, the source of hope, fill you with joy 

12/11/16 I am rested Exodus 33:14 My presence will travel with you, and I will give you rest. 

12/12/16 I am healthy Jeremiah 30:17 For I will restore health to you, and your wounds I will heal, declares the Lord

12/13/16 I am loving Ephesians 3:17  May love be the rich soil where their lives take root. 

12/14/16 I am forgiving Matthew 6:14 For if I forgive others their trespasses, my Heavenly Father will also forgive me 

12/15/16 I am unoffendable Luke 7:23 And blessed is the one who is not offended 

12/16/16 I am encouraging Isaiah 50:4 The Almighty Lord will teach me what to say, so I will know how to encourage weary people.

12/17/16 I am hopeful 1 Peter 1:3 Through God’s great mercy we have been reborn into a living Hope.

12/18/16 I am redeemed Psalm 107:2 Let the redeemed of the Lord say so

12/19/16 I am restored Psalm 23:3  He restores my soul. 

12/20/16 I am chosen Ephesians 1:4 God chose us to be in a relationship with Him even before He laid out plans for this world; 

12/21/16 I am light Philippians 2:14-15 Do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world

12/22/16 I am strong Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through him who strengthens me. 

12/23/16 I am healed Isaiah 53:5 By His stripes we are healed. 

12/24/16 I am successful Proverbs 16:3 Commit your works to the Lord submit and trust them to Him, And your plans will succeed if you respond to His will and guidance. 

12/25/16 I am generous Luke 6:38 Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity.” 

12/26/16 I am favored Psalm 5:12 Because you, Lord, bless the righteous. You cover them with favor like a shield. 

12/27/16 I am Thankful 1 Thessalonians 5:18 No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 

12/28/16 I am Faithful Romans 10:17 So faith comes from hearing the Good News. And people hear the Good News when someone tells them about Christ. 

12/29/16 I am wise Proverbs 12:18 The words of wise people bring healing. 

12/30/16 I am victorious 1 Corinthians 15:57 Thanks be to God, who gives us this victory through our Lord Jesus Christ! 

12/31/16 I am qualified Colossians 1:11-12 Be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy; giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. 

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~ XXOO Michelle Bollom 

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Find Your Voice

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Do you struggle finding your voice? Do you feel pressured into saying yes when inside you’re really screaming NOOOOO!
Do you say yes out of pressures or not wanting to hurt someone’s feelings? Do you complain and dread that you ever said yes to something? Do you make yourself miserable or compromise your integrity trying to get out of that dreadful yes you didn’t really mean?
Do you feel aggravated or upset at people or their actions? Do you get on the phone telling all your girlfriends about all your frustrations, but never address it directly with the person that upset you or hurt your feelings? Do you have a problem setting boundaries?
I love Joyce Meyer. She does not sugar coat anything. She talks about overcoming all these areas and so much more in real, sound, biblical ways. She has really been instrumental in my spiritual transformation over the years.
One of her books that really helped me years ago was Approval Addiction. I always thought of myself as a person that really could give a rat’s behind what other people thought, but I actually did all those things I just described above. I couldn’t find my true voice for most of my life. I took all my frustrations to others or out on others. I filled my friends and families ears with all my frustrations, instead of taking it all to Jesus. What Joyce means by “Take it to the Throne instead of the Phone”
I was horrible at setting boundaries too. I constantly let others poop in my yard till I got the courage to put up good fences. If they got through my fence, I got good at asking them to pick up and take their poop with them. (That is another amazing message by Momma Joyce on boundaries that I highly recommend)
I was a stuffer. I stuffed my emotions for many years. I stuffed with food, shopping, and one compulsion after another. When I got so full from the stuffing my words and emotions, I finally erupted in anger. I would blow and everyone around me better take cover. I did not blow very much when I was younger, but when emotional stuffing and hormones and being a mother of twins got all mixed up together, it was like all the ingredients needed for a Mt. St. Helens type of blow. I am so thankful for recovery and Jesus. I still work the steps of recovering to this day.
Growing up I did not feel that I had the right to express my opinions if they differed from what I witnessed in those of authority around me. To disagree was to be hostile. To have your own opinion apart from others meant you had lost your ever loving mind. I remember having a differing opinion from my grandmother growing up and getting slapped across the face for it. I learned early on to get comfortable just going with the flow and pleasing others. I got real good at keeping it all inside and was not able to find my voice for far too long. It wasn’t until going with the flow and not expressing my true feelings almost killed me. I felt like a powder keg about ready to explode most days, and most days I did blow! I started to resent others because I could not find my voice or set boundaries effectively. I was stressed out and ready to run far far away from it all. Fear kept me drowning in a sea of debt and food and misery.
Only God was able to take all that dysfunction and restore and transform it into something beautiful. His Spirit and His word will transform us if we let it.
A verse that speaks to me is Matthew 5:37;
“Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one.” Matthew 5:37 NLT.
As a talker, that verse is not one that is very easy for me. I still have to surrender my words and mouth to God to let my words be worthy and few daily. Some days I am better at this and some day’s not so much. It is a learning and growing process. You can bet the more you focus on certain areas the more slip ups in that area you will experience. The evil one likes to use our words a lot.
It is a testing and purification process of ourselves making us to become more Christ like. God can use it all for His Glory if we let Him, but first we have to surrender our control and our mouth to Him. Only the Holy Spirit can work it all out through us if we let Him have His way.

When we can’t find our words, take comfort in these Promises!

I am the LORD your God, the one who brought you out of Egypt. Open your mouth wide, and I will fill it. ~ Psalm 81:10 GWT
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone. ~ Colossians 4:6 NIV
Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say. ~ Exodus 4:12 NIV
May our Lord Jesus Christ Himself and God our Father, who loved us and in His grace gave us unfailing courage and a firm hope, encourage you and strengthen you always to do and say what is good. (2 Thessalonians 2:16, 17 GNB)

If we take all our words and situations to God and ask Him to fill our mouth, we will be much better at saying:
I am sorry; I don’t have peace about that so I don’t believe that is God’s will for me.
No, that doesn’t work for me.
Let me pray about that and get back to you.
Yes, that works for me.
Yes, I would love to help you.
Yes, I will
No, I won’t
Yes
No
Or whatever else He needs us to say!

Lord, help me to release every situation to You before I respond. Your ways and words are perfect Father. Open my mouth and fill it with what You will have me say. Forgive me for going against the rhythms of Your peace and perfect will. Teach me Your ways of setting the appropriate boundaries I need to. Forgive me for running off at my mouth. Show me areas I have built up bitterness and resentments that need to be released and help me to let them go. Forgive me for bypassing Your Throne and running to the phone. Let me see every situation as an opportunity to grow in Christ. May my words be worthy, truthful, and few. Let my Yes be Yes and my No be No. I thank You for changing me and helping me to find the right words and boundaries that help me flourish in this life. Transform me and restore me Lord. May my words always be seasoned with Your Love. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

~XXOO, Michelle Bollom

Worthy Words

Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it. ~ Ephesians 4:29 AMP

Foul adj.adjective – Morally detestable; wicked. Of a vulgar or obscene nature. Very disagreeable or displeasing; horrid. Bad or unfavorable. Offensive to the senses; revolting

Evil adj.adjective -Morally bad or wrong; wicked. Causing ruin, injury, or pain; harmful. Characterized by or indicating future misfortune; ominous. Bad or blameworthy by report; infamous. Characterized by anger or spite; malicious

Good adj.adjective-Worthy of respect; honorable .Attractive; handsome. Beneficial to health; salutary. Valid or true. Genuine; Pleasant; enjoyable. Of moral excellence; upright. Benevolent; kind .Loyal; staunch. Well-behaved; obedient.

Beneficial adj.adjective-Producing or promoting a favorable result; advantageous. Enhance wellbeing

Last year I tweeted up twitter world with #MarchMouthMonth. I was convicted that I and my family needed to speak Worthier Words. I used this verse above as our kick off verse for that challenge. I had never given much thought to my words. I used to cuss like a sailor and to be honest, I still can easily pick up a word a little too colorful to describe something and sometimes the words “Oh Snap”, just don’t fully describe the situation or make me feel better so I just let the old cuss words fly. I feel better only momentarily, than I realize, my kiddos or others have had a front row seat to my unworthy words. I grew up with a grandmother that saw everything with a critical and judgmental eye and she wasn’t afraid to tell you what she thought. She was a big time screamer and would rage with lots of harsh words. I thought that was normal behavior growing up. I wanted so desperately for my kiddos to unlearn some of the bad habits that the broken, pre-transformed me had displayed to them. I am so thankful that God so lovingly works with us transforming, renewing, renovating, and restoring us and when we do fall short His grace covers us along our imperfect journeys. With God’s help we all made big improvements with our mouths. I was almost finished with this Devotion for you on Worthy Words when just this past week I heard an awesome message on Words by Melody Barker. God used her and that message to take my challenge on words even deeper. She referenced the verse Matthew 12:36 “But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the Day of Judgment.” OUCH! Then I looked it up in the message translation…“It’s your heart, not the dictionary that gives meaning to your words. A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard. Let me tell you something: Every one of these careless words is going to come back to haunt you. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.”            DOUBLE OUCH!

Idle – of no real worth, importance, or significance. Empty, trifling, vain, useless. Rumors or Gossip.

Think of that definition of Idle. On a given day how many idle words do we speak that are not building anyone or anything up?

My back hurts, idiot drivers, turds, I am tired, I hate when this or that happens, I hate the car rider line, traffic stinks, you never listen, did you hear about so and so, I dread the grocery store, I don’t want to wake up, the weather is too hot, too cold, I hate my job, is it the weekend yet, Ugh, I don’t want to exercise, Weirdo, this is so slow…

Words make deposits into our souls. The words we speak to ourselves and the words spoken by others to us; make huge deposits into our soul. Unfortunately we too can make lots of bad deposits into people’s souls by the words we speak. It is not just those self- defeating demeaning words, the curse words, the negative critical or judgmental words, but all unworthy or idle words can wither a soul up quick. God knew the importance of choosing our words wisely. God knew that the tongue had the power of life or death. He knows a truly transformed mouth must be exercised Season after Season, not just for a month.

May we all be challenged to speak Worthier Words.   ~   XXOO   Michelle Bollom

Still not convinced our words are powerful?  Click here http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EIOx7i7MkY8

A Dangerous Trap

 

Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the LORD means safety. ~ Proverbs 29:25

For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. ~2 Timothy 1:7

 

Fear n. noun 1. A feeling of agitation and anxiety caused by the presence or imminence of danger. 2. A state or condition marked by this feeling. Living in fear. 3. A feeling of disquiet or apprehension. a fear of looking foolish. V. verb 1. To be afraid or frightened of. 2. To be uneasy or apprehensive about. Feared the test results. 3. To be in awe of; revere.

WOW! That first verse really gets me. I love the straight forwardness and simplicity of it. What I love even more is how God used that verse to speak to me in some areas where I was caught in that trap of fearing man. I would not consider myself fearful. My family and I used to love the show Fear Factor. We used to laugh and say we could win as long as we did not have to eat the cockroaches. I also had people call me fearless and brave because I rapped in front of almost 30,000 people with Grammy Winner Mandisa. 

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I really felt no fear doing that. I am however, a recovering Approval Addict.  I spent a lot of my life performing to gain approval and did not speak up for myself or rock the boat and pretty much operated in a false self; most of my early life.

The characteristics of a False Self person are: limited ability for love/ intimacy, Needs to be in control, lives in illusions, not in reality. Birthed in fear; very insecure, unable to express needs, and prone to addictions and compulsions. Yep, that described me well. It wasn’t until my life was out of control and I finally surrendered to God and allowed God, The Holy Spirit and His word to transform my life did my True Self began to emerge.

True Self, Characteristics are: Great capacity for love/intimacy Does not need to be in control, gives other people freedom, rooted in God’s truth, identity is in God; trusts in God, lives according to personal values/beliefs and is peaceful. I am pretty much all of those True Self characteristics now thanks to God and Recovery; but I still honestly sometimes have a problem trusting God fully, which when you don’t trust God, you essentially are living in Fear. I didn’t feel fearful about situations or life in general, but God specifically wanted to show me some lessons on Fear of Man and that type of Fear, what I thought was a thing of my past; was indeed still keeping me trapped. He used two situations in the last year to bring that lesson home.

The first lesson He taught me on Fear of Man was on tithing. I have prided myself in being a cheerful giver and for almost 10 years I have followed the Biblical rule of at least 10% is given back to God in your tithe each month. I would increase the amount from time to time so I knew I did not just give 10%. Then God started showing me that I was giving out of pride. Really, God? Pride? God we can never give enough back to you… Really? God you would never asks us to adjust our giving, only to keep increasing it, Right? …Wrong!  God was asking me to review my budget and to lower the amount of my giving so that I could save for a better safeguard for my family in case of emergencies or repairs. I really thought that could not be God speaking or asking anyone to ever lessen their amount of giving so I shared this with my close friend, one of my Iron Sharpens Iron girlies that God likes to use us with each other to help us get some big God Lessons. As we talked about it, I got some clarification, and when I took it to the Lord, I got an even bigger clarification. I looked at our monthly budget and found that I was giving 18.5 % each month. I was not putting anything back for my families safeguarding. The bible instructs us to give 10% and I practice that with my children also. Some think it is harsh to make your child give 10% of all pet sitting, Birthday, or Christmas money they earn back to God, but I know in the 4 years my children have done it, that it has made for much better kids, I just wish I would have started earlier in my life and in theirs. They don’t always have to give to our church in the offering, sometimes they choose a charity, or they like to bless strangers. I think God loves all ways we give back to Him and He honors cheerful giving. So I took this knowledge I had uncovered to my husband. I told Him that this was what God was speaking to me about. He thought it should be a simple decision to lower that amount to ensure that we are paying ourselves also so that we can have a safeguard in case of emergencies and to simply obey God. I wish I could say that I did obey my husband and even God right away, but, No, I dragged my feet and wrestled with God over this decision for six more months because I was fearful our church and pastors would look at us differently if we lowered our tithes. God made it unbearable for me until I finally wanted to Obey God more than be trapped by my Fear of Man. God has blessed that decision so much and I am so happy to have God decide what He would have us give and not what I thought I should because of my pride.

When I thought I had no more problems with fear, the Holy Spirit began to speak to my heart and told me that fear was indeed crippling me. The fear of man, the fear of their reactions, fear of opinions, all were hindering me from stepping into God’s full plans for me. God was asking me to take some great big steps for Him. I was so excited, but not everybody was as excited, encouraging, or happy for me. Many did not understand. Some had strong opinions, some began to distance themselves from me, and it started a wave of unfriending when I started posting on social media what I was doing for God. I wasn’t so much bothered over the unfriending’s and unfollows as I was that out of almost 1000 friends, less than 100 had actually supported me by “liking” my new Ministry Page.

(Yes, Liking a page is showing support for someone in the Social Media world & Yes I break the so called experts rules and solicit likes for my page.  How else can it grow and reach people?)

Well, that nasty fear of man, as God’s word says, is a trap! I found myself fearful of posting what I felt God would have me post, or write what I felt He wanted me to write, I was unsure of what I should do, so most days I did nothing. I had committed to God months before that if He wanted me to step out and trust Him, I will do it. I wanted to be totally obedient to Him, no matter what that looked like. So now after I had declared that and stepped out for God, I was bound by this trap of fear of people’s opinions, counting Likes, unfriending’s, unfollowing’s, comments, lack of comments etc…? I was allowing the enemy to plague me with fear. I had stopped being a warrior for God and became a worrier.  I want to be a warrior, not a worrier.  Was I going to embrace each step that God would give me on this journey and not get bound to the vicious trap of comparison and competing? Guessing and second guessing God? I spent many days and nights taking it all to God. This is what I felt God spoke to me about this 2nd Fear of Man lesson.

The world would be much better off if we would collaborate more and compete less.

God’s garden is big enough for us all. We need each other and God designed us to work together. We all have different gifting’s and abilities and strengths that are needed to advance His Kingdom and share Christ with this dark world. Some people just won’t support you, in life or with Likes. Keep Asking, Keep Seeking, And Keep Knocking. Don’t let the voices in your head and the voices of the crowds of naysayers discourage you to not fully step out for God.Don’t let the fear of people’s reactions keep you from taking action. Trust God. Obey God in the small things and everything. Keep going even when you don’t understand.  Your success is not defined by Likes & Followers, It is defined by God. 

 

I so want my hearts cry to the Lord to reflect what the song Oceans by Hillsong United, says.

 

You call me out upon the waters… The great unknown where feet may fail… And there I find You in the mystery …In oceans deep My faith will stand …Your grace abounds in deepest waters… Your sovereign hand Will be my guide ..Where feet may fail and fear surrounds me …You’ve never failed and You won’t start now ,,So I will call upon Your name And keep my eyes above the waves ..When oceans rise My soul will rest in Your embrace …For I am Yours and You are mine …Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders …Let me walk upon the waters …Wherever You would call me… Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander And my faith will be made stronger …In the presence of my Savior

 

I want to trust God, to rest in His embrace, to answer His call out upon the unknown waters. Where His promises to never leave me or fail me are so believable that I will trust without borders. My faith will be made stronger when I stay in the presence of my Savior.

I want to Trust God so much that there is never any room for Fear.

Here are some amazing affirmations that I choose to keep reminding myself of when I start to let the doubts of others discourage me.

It is not the crowd that calls you but God that calls you. And when you get to heaven you’re not going to have to answer for the crowds you’re only going to have to answer for yourself. Don’t get so hung up on the fear of what people will think that you let it paralyze and keep you from your potential and purpose for the Lord. Not everyone will understand why or how God calls you. It is ok. You don’t have to justify what God has called you to for anyone. You only need to worry about an audience of ONE! The Heavenly Father! If He called you, He will carry you through.

I leave you with this great quote.

Fear of the unknown is a dream killer. It causes people to freeze in time and one day they will wake up and realize that their opportunities have been seized by someone who was willing to look fear in the face and take the leap of faith. ~ Adonis Lenzy                                                                                                                                     

  I hope you are inspired to look fear in the face and take that leap of faith. Don’t let Fear be a dream killer anymore; remember you are fearless in Christ. Step out Big! Be Brave! XXOO ~Michelle Bollom

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