Ever see this verse? “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” ~ Proverbs 31:27. What about in this translation? “She looks discretely to the affairs of her household, and she is never lazy.” Ouch!
I used to really feel guilty when I saw this verse. Today when I read this verse my first reaction was “yep I killed it Monday cleaning part of my house and mopping floors. I was not idle at all.” “Yep Tuesday I got my work out in and washed some clothes and made an amazing dinner after hosting bible study at my house..Booyah!” I made my bed, decorative pillows and all the last two days!
It is easy to get boastful and prideful on those days we are killing it with so much energy and checking things off our to-do lists left and right. But today, I sit still in my PJs. My kids have been gone for over two hours now and I am still sitting here reading my Bible, praying, answering a few messages, writing this blog. And you want to know what? I don’t feel guilty at all. I know God still loves me on these days as well as the days I am at peak performance. Actually He probably loves me more on days like today because that is when I really soak up all the beautiful Promises He has for me.
I expanded on this whole verse, You know the Proverbs 31 Woman. The famous verses making all us women feel like total slackers. Yep this used to get me so discouraged. Not anymore. God makes us all unique. We all have gifting’s and abilities especially suited for us. Who cares if someone does all those things? I for one think she needed to maybe “lay down the law” and let her husband and kids know that if everyone lives in it, then everyone should pull their weight! Sure, I can check off a few of her characteristics and strive to achieve in some other areas, but come on, I don’t go buying fields, but I did buy my husband a great used car recently all by myself. Up before dawn? I get up first but it is normally around 5:30 and I keep trying to push it to 6 and I have been known to get everyone out the door and lay back down. Gasp! I know….Such a slacker! I don’t enjoy knitting and sewing. Nope today I am still undressed so missed that “up and dressed” part today. The next one that gets me is not in a hurry to call it quits….uhmm I am always in a hurry to call it quits for the day, I am worn out and like my sleep. I am not diligent in homemaking, I try, I really do, but years of having a maid spoiled me and I just really do not enjoy it so I am blessed God gave me twins and they are huge helps around the house and I no longer feel the need to have a spotless house. I like a house lived in. So what am I trying to get at? Don’t condemn yourselves ladies, don’t compare or try to compete with a Proverbs 31 Woman, or any woman. That is a guideline and not meant to be achieved perfectly this side of Heaven. Sure we need balance and need to be striving to be better today than we were yesterday, but don’t feel guilty if the chores are undone, If you have not got in your work out, If you took a nap or went back to sleep, or if you spent longer in your quiet time. Yes, the Proverbs 31 Woman may have OutClassed us all, but hey, I will gladly rest in God, soak up His promises, and rejoice that He will work it all out and make us the women He wants us to be. He knows best and can use a day in your pjs as well as those days you killed your to-do lists. XXOO, Michelle Bollom
Hymn to a Good Wife
10-31A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!
Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary Proverbs 31:10-31 31:10-31 This is the description of a virtuous woman of those days, but the general outlines equally suit every age and nation. She is very careful to recommend herself to her husband’s esteem and affection, to know his mind, and is willing that he rule over her. 1. She can be trusted, and he will leave such a wife to manage for him. He is happy in her. And she makes it her constant business to do him good. 2. She is one that takes pains in her duties, and takes pleasure in them. She is careful to fill up time, that none be lost. She rises early. She applies herself to the business proper for her, to women’s business. She does what she does, with all her power, and trifles not. 3. She makes what she does turn to good account by prudent management. Many undo themselves by buying, without considering whether they can afford it. She provides well for her house. She lays up for hereafter. 4. She looks well to the ways of her household, that she may oblige all to do their duty to God and one another, as well as to her. 5. She is intent upon giving as upon getting, and does it freely and cheerfully. 6. She is discreet and obliging; every word she says, shows she governs herself by the rules of wisdom. She not only takes prudent measures herself, but gives prudent advice to others. The law of love and kindness is written in the heart, and shows itself in the tongue. Her heart is full of another world, even when her hands are most busy about this world. 7. Above all, she fears the Lord. Beauty recommends none to God, nor is it any proof of wisdom and goodness, but it has deceived many a man who made his choice of a wife by it. But the fear of God reigning in the heart, is the beauty of the soul; it lasts for ever. 8. She has firmness to bear up under crosses and disappointments. She shall reflect with comfort when she comes to be old, that she was not idle or useless when young. She shall rejoice in a world to come. She is a great blessing to her relations. If the fruit be good, the tree must have our good word. But she leaves it to her own works to praise her. Every one ought to desire this honour that cometh from God; and according to this standard we all ought to regulate our judgments. This description let all women daily study, who desire to be truly beloved and respected, useful and honorable. This passage is to be applied to individuals, but may it not also be applied to the church of God, which is described as a virtuous spouse? God by his grace has formed from among sinful men a church of true believers, to possess all the excellences here described.