The Forgivable Sin

Today as every other post, headline and news story is talking about the horrific law passed allowing abortion up to full term, my heart is deeply grieved because of this decision, but it also aches deeply for every woman and man that with each post and news story is brought back to a time of deep pain when they chose abortion.

No one chooses abortion lightly.

Fear is a powerful driving force and many are forced into making that decision. It’s never an easy decision.

I believe the best voices for the future of the unborn lies in the process of letting those that chose abortion know that there is forgiveness, wholeness and restoration available to them in Jesus Christ.

Once they are Restored – they will never want anyone to suffer as they have due to abortion.

Abortion affects people just like PTSD. It has long ranging effects.

Sadly, I have been speaking out about this to leaders and churches and communities and anyone that will listen, that abortion is as much a problem for the churched as the unchurched.

I did post abortion Bible Studies in my community through the local pregnancy center. More than half of those attending were daughters of Pastors, Deacons, Elders and Bishops … all forced to have their abortions due to the shame it would bring their fathers, families and communities.

They all either described how they worked and served hard in the Church trying to prove their good works afterwards or they simply left the church completely because of the hurt they felt because no one offered them anything other than judgement and condemnation.

The Worlds churches are full of wounded women and men sitting in congregations hurting deeply over this. Another Sanctity of Life sermon and Pro-Life rant will not heal them.

Almost all that I counseled were still holding onto their secrets and shame so tightly that many turned to various forms of counterfeit comforts – hard drugs, alcohol, pills or food to try to numb their deep pain. I was one of them too for almost 25 years.

Statistics show that almost 60% of female inmates in our prison systems have had an abortion.

Where there is a woman suffering – there is also many men suffering too.

Not every man is the driving force behind the choice to abort. Many men are deeply grieved over their parts or even lack of in the decision.

I once even heard of a young college girl that was adamant on choosing abortion and when asked why, she said that her Heavenly Father can forgive her but her earthly father said he would not forgive her if she didn’t choose abortion. Her earthly father was a prominent pastor in the community.

Today, as many people around the world are incensed by this decision, may we also be just as enraged and angry for God’s daughters and sons that have bought the lies that they are horrible murderers or people because of their choice to abort.

May we be led to help them receive forgiveness and wholeness instead of simply screaming about how horrible and wrong it is.

We ALL know how horrible it is – trust me. Oprah and Chelsea Handler and every pink hat wearer claiming rights to their choices and bodies will try to spin it differently – but it is never as simple or lighthearted as they claim it is.

May we be able to show them they are loved despite the choices they made and point them to the truth that abortion is not the unforgivable sin.

Shame can only survive in silence.

God forgave Moses and David for murder and He has forgiven me and will forgive ANYONE and EVERYONE that comes to Him and repents that have made that choice too.

Please hear me!

There is wholeness and life and life abundantly available after abortion.

We must shatter the silence and shame by allowing the Words of our testimony and the Blood of the Lamb to enable us to overcome and help others overcome.

We begin to repair our stories when we share our stories.

Yes, we must

Pray for the unborn,

Pray for the lawmakers,

but please don’t forget to

Pray for your fellow brothers and sisters that are suffering in shame and silence today.

Pray they reach out and know that they are worthy of love and forgiveness.

I am not here to say abortion is ok or that we don’t have a right to voice our righteous anger towards the killing of millions of babies every year …

No, please know and hear my heart-

I am here to say that we must do more – we can always do more than simply voicing our anger over abortion. We can be committed to help restore lives by helping anyone suffering from the affects of abortion to become forgiven, healed and whole. In doing so, we can help bring about great change to the very fabric of our Nation.

If one person is bound – we are all bound!

Contact me if you need prayer, resources, or help healing from abortion.

Together-let’s make a difference.

~ XXOO Michelle Bollom

This book in the lead photo is years in the making and I hope – Lord Willing, it will be finished this year.

Restored Ministries

Pro Love 

In the eyes of our Lord, a sin is a sin.  One does not weigh heavier while the other is more acceptable. 

 As Christians, the Bible teaches us that it is wrong to murder a person. While there is debate as to when an unborn child is actually considered ‘a person’, we believe that God intended that person to live and that ending their life before it begins is murder. I can see the case for those who want the federal government to disallow abortions but this is not about politics, it’s about Jesus.

As far back as I can remember the subject of abortion has been a hot topic in every election season. Did God create our government as a means of removing the opportunity for certain modes of sinning? Is it more likely that politicians have become aware that they can earn a large number of votes if they seem to support the Christian faith?  

Thinking of the politicians and government as one man, I ask you, did God come to the man and tell him that his purpose is to ensure that all sinners are imprisoned? Does the Bible not tell us that it is only God who executes judgment?  

Thinking of all women looking at having an abortion as one woman, are we as Christians not instructed to love her? She is in a time of desperate need. If we turn our backs because we disapprove of the sin she is considering are we not sinning equally?  

I believe the continued ‘fight’ over the legality of abortion distracts us from our real work. Our God is not a God of chaos. A crowd of angry protestors outside of a medical clinic is not doing God’s work. If they would drop their pitch forks and become a soft place to fall for the women they may actually be able to stop some from making that choice.  

The choice that is theirs to make as God intended it to be.  

I’m not asking that you like what I’ve said here. I am asking that you see that the path we have been on is not the way of God. Our God uses our experiences to help others.  

In high school, a friend of mine became pregnant. She was certain that if her mother knew she would be kicked out into the street. This friend opted for an abortion. At seventeen years old I drove my friend to the clinic. We drove past a group of angry men chanting terrible things and holding up signs. These men were not doing God’s work. They were not acting out of love. Their lack of compassion for this soul in distress blocked their ability to love her.  

They were not able to help or educate her through their judgment and shaming.  

While they upset her, they did not stop her from terminating the pregnancy.  

All they did was give her a bad taste for religious people.  

When you see someone set out on a mission ‘for God’, look at the mission and the path they choose. Does the mission of making abortion illegal seem to be following a path lighted by Christ?   

Does God want His people to avoid abortions for fear of man’s law or would He prefer that they use the free will He gave them to choose the right path?  

I don’t see this as a question of pro life or pro choice. As a Christian, I know that God gave us life and choice. I believe that the fight over this subject is brought by the enemy to divide us and to keep us from ministering to the women who need our love and support more than anything else. 

  I believe it should always be about Pro Love! 

                       ~ Kim Weingart 

2 Timothy 2:26 ESV

And they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.

Galatians 5:13 ESV

For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.