Be sure to thank the Hero’s in your life!
Be sure to thank the Hero’s in your life!
This was a big area for me that I struggled in judgement in. I didn’t seem to extend grace to anyone that backed out of a commitment.
I had woundings from my childhood and marriage that I felt that broken promises had caused me great pain in my past so I built a hard spot for anyone else that didn’t keep their word or promises to me.
Now I am not talking about sometimes things come up and can’t be avoided. We need mercy and grace for those instances and sometimes it’s just simply dealing with our own warped and deceptive perception and emotions of not taking those instances personal.
It can’t always be avoided sometimes and I get that and know God is always in control and a Divine Detour could be in the works.
The Lord Willing Response -is a good start so you are not having to go back on your word if you struggle in the area of keeping your word-but don’t use it as an excuse either.
Also don’t be so bound that it is something you begrudgingly do or go against your peace gauge; you may be needing to step away or break a commitment in order to say your best yes for you or your family or even God.
What I am talking about is what I believe is a spirit that people operate in. They make big plans and promises consistently and even may vow their unending loyalty and commitment to you but are always backing out and usually in the very last minute with excuses after excuses and never follow through. They also have a quitter spirit and don’t like when you disagree with them.
They usually have offense issues and are offended easily and have perception issues too;their perception is so full of deception.
They also operate highly in paranoia and pity.
They perceive things and think that their discernment and perception is fact but it is so warped and wrapped up in their fickle fleshly emotions they can’t recognize it and have a hard time separating fantasy from reality. They like escapism.
They can also have confrontational, isolation and blame issues. They retreat offended then blame others for the distance they themselves created or they always want to force their opinions upon you to entice a confrontation. They can have an argumentative spirit too.
I have struggled with all of those at some time in my life too. I am not pointing fingers; this is a Divine Download to help me and others too.
This is not always a bad thing when you recognize someone operating in that spirit. It can be a good thing because once you recognize it you can set boundaries, pray to not get a spirit of criticism or judgement against them, but also rest assured in knowing that God is revealing and separating the wheat from the chaff for a reason.
You pray and love them but also know that they just can’t be relied upon so sometimes you have to love them from a healthy distance until they are willing to break free from it themselves.
Ask God to help you recognize the faithful from the flaky in your life.
(Joking! But hey, that really is a great prayer!)
If you suffer from this spirit – ask the Lord to help you break those patterns and start to follow through with what you say you will do.
Thankfully when we are not promise keepers – God is always a Promise Keeper!
~ XXOO Michelle Bollom
R – Respect
E – Emotional
L – Loving
A – Attention
T – Trust
I – Initiative
O – Openness
N – Nurturing
S – Sharing
H – Honor
I – Investing
P – Partnership
Relationship is the single most important “skill” that each one of us must learn, and the process starts the moment we are born and continues until the day we die.
It is impossible to master this skill, because it is different with everyone and is always changing! We live and learn and grow and improve and meet new people and have new experiences and all of this affects our relationships with one another!
We build our character through the relationships we have with our family, friends, co-workers and everyone we come into contact with on a daily basis.
Out of all the relationships we have, the one that we must all strive to enrich and grow is our relationship with God. He is the one that matters most and will help us with all the other relationships in our lives.
He will give us the insight that we need to “master the skill” of relating with one another.
The bible is the best book to learn and study about how to build great relationships and Jesus is the best role model of all.
So in your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus. Philippians 2:5
So in everything do unto others what you would have them do unto you. Matthew 7:12
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength, and love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these. Mark 12:29-31
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
~ Deb Hicks
God’s love is so unlike our love. His love is the most honest, pure, complete, unending and unconditional love we will ever know. God loves the murderer, the rapist, the thief, the liar, the abortionist, the adulterer, the slanderers, the complainers, the atheists, the same as He loves you and me.
The truth is, we are all guilty of many of these things and more at some point.
God loves the sick, the weak, the lost, and the ignorant as much as He loves the healthy, the strong, the saved, and the educated.
May we continuously seek to love like Him. Ask God to flood you with an unending and undying love for one another and for all humanity.
Lord, forgive me when I place conditions on love. Help me to love the unlovable. Help me to not judge or condemn others by their opinions, their faults or their sins. Help me not to withhold love for others and give me an authentic love for all humanity. Help me Lord to love like You. ~ In Jesus Name, Amen.
XXOO Michelle Bollom
I am a believer
Christ like soldier
Alive unto God and His righteousness
Receiver of His tender mercies
That endure forever
Father help me to forget
Those things that weigh me down
Trying to keep my mind on myself
My past and foolishness
Forgiveness be my battle call
Offering His precious blood
To all who will heed
Living spirit of the chosen one
Strong arm of the Lord is still
Preaching, teaching, reaching
Rescuing all lost souls
Who long to dwell in safety
Under the shadow of His wings
Tripping and entangled in my youth
Tormented by truths of my yesterday’s
Ignoring the call
To fall down on my knees
Intervening for humanity
Lord, please place within me
An urgency to tell them
To repent and follow thee
For bringing the glorious gospel
You have given
All for me
Those things I remember
Graced your bosom
Smoke hovering your rims
Deeply into your bed
Cut green glass
Turning of tables
Loud music and dance
Nonchalant and elegant
For the last drag
Like warm covers
After love made
Just passers by
In this ashtrays
What God has shown me lately is that everyone’s hot button topics are different and just because someone doesn’t jump on the same bandwagon as you do with the same passion as you do does not make them wrong. We can disagree and dislike things but still love each other.
We are not called to champion every cause or atrocity or phishing post or tweet we encounter. Sometimes God calls some of us to be silent and to pray, or just to keep scrolling because our opinion is not needed.
Some do not deserve to be told an answer as Jesus chose in Mark 11:33, because some contend and debate issues not for the truth, but instead for the victory or having the last word. Some even already know the real answer but choose to reject it based on emotions or going along with the crowd.
We should choose wisely what we say, what we answer to and how we behave. If it doesn’t glorify God- don’t say or do it!
We must endeavor in relations to behave ourselves so as to put to silence the unreasonable reproaches of the most ignorant and foolish of people. (Matthew Henry Commentary for 1 Peter 2:15)
There is no condition or cause or post or tweet or viral video so mean and horrible that a person may live conscientiously in it and still glorify God. (Paraphrased and added to from Matthew Henry commentary on 1 Peter 2:19-22)
My choice to not engage in the disputes or debates or jump on bandwagons or like your viral video does not mean I am less passionate or intelligent, nor am I passively just idly sitting by twiddling my thumbs-or my brains have fallen out…or I don’t have a voice….
It means I see through the facades and like Jesus- choose not to answer or engage. I choose to be silent because sometimes Silence is Powerful!
~XXOO Michelle Bollom
For it is the will of God by doing right that you may silence (muzzle, gag) the [culpable] ignorance and irresponsible criticisms of foolish people. ~ 1 Peter 2:15 AMP
For this finds favor, if a person endures the sorrow of suffering unjustly because of an [awareness of [the will of] God. After all, what kind of credit is there if, when you do wrong and are punished for it, you endure it patiently? But if when you do what is right and patiently bear [undeserved] suffering, this finds favor with God.
Christ Is Our Example
For [as a believer] you have been called for this purpose, since Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, so that you may follow in His footsteps. He committed no sin, nor was deceit ever found in His mouth. ~1 Peter 2:19-22 AMP
So they replied to Jesus, “We do not know.” And Jesus said to them, “Neither will I tell you by what authority I do these things.” ~Mark 11:33 AMP
I was spending some time in Galatians this week in the Fruits of the Spirit when this title caught my eye: Two ways of Different Living in the CEB translation. I like the simplicity of CEB or ERV translations but I really love to look up verses in the Message translation because it just really hits the points home for me. Here is the Message version on the two ways of different living:
My counsel is this: Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit. Then you won’t feed the compulsions of selfishness. For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with selfishness. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day. Why don’t you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence?
It is obvious what kind of life develops out of trying to get your own way all the time: repetitive, loveless, cheap sex; a stinking accumulation of mental and emotional garbage; frenzied and joyless grabs for happiness; trinket gods; magic-show religion; paranoid loneliness; cutthroat competition; all-consuming-yet-never-satisfied wants; a brutal temper; an impotence to love or be loved; divided homes and divided lives; small-minded and lopsided pursuits; the vicious habit of depersonalizing everyone into a rival; uncontrolled and uncontrollable addictions; ugly parodies of community. I could go on. This isn’t the first time I have warned you, you know. If you use your freedom this way, you will not inherit God’s kingdom.
But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely. But what happens when we live God’s way? He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard—things like affection for others, exuberance about life, serenity. We develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and a conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people. We find ourselves involved in loyal commitments, not needing to force our way in life, able to marshal and direct our energies wisely. Legalism is helpless in bringing this about; it only gets in the way. Among those who belong to Christ, everything connected with getting our own way and mindlessly responding to what everyone else calls necessities is killed off for good—crucified. Legalism is helpless in bringing this about; it only gets in the way. Among those who belong to Christ, everything connected with getting our own way and mindlessly responding to what everyone else calls necessities is killed off for good—crucified. Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.
(Galatians 5:13-26 MSG)
This is all great advice!
Stop comparing- start loving! And remember – We are all an Original!
XXOO Michelle Bollom
Put on your happy face
Cover your hurt and shame
The pain no one knows
Hide away who you are
Camouflage every scar
That’s just how it goes
No one wants to see the way you’re hurting
No one wants to hold you when you cry
The hearts you hold can’t heal away the heartache
So protect them and lock it away in you sealed with a smile
Hide in your happy place
Hold to the hope and grace
You don’t always feel
There is a better way
Rest assured that one day
Your smile will be real