A Deeper Connection

Do you ever feel like you have that someone in your life … a parent … a sibling… a partner … a friend; that you seem to always be feeling like you are hustling for their approvals or acceptance or accolades or affections?

When we are craving deeper heart Connections and all we are getting is superficial surface fluff…it gets hard to not want to either hustle for affection or retreat with resentments.

Recently I watched two tables while out at a dinner meeting and it made me want to cry. One person was stuck with their face in the phone and the other one looked lost and deeply sad.

I too have been in others presence and watched as they engaged with others on their mobile while I sat silent feeling dished and excluded.

I too have been guilty and put my phone above my family and friends at times.

I try to practice time off my phone now. It’s a choice. I turn my phone off at a certain time and people know if I don’t respond I am on off time. They also know if they have a true emergency I can be reached by a special land line.

Trust me – there is not a call or text so important that it can’t wait till the morning.

I really struggled with this because I get calls, messages and texts from people I know and strangers contacting me for Ministry and Prayer needs. I have learned not to answer everything like a 911 call.

I will send an auto reply or explain I am not available at the current moment and will get back to them soon. Sometimes God does have me drop everything immediately for them.

We must learn to hear God and let Him direct and guide us and not let the ding of our devices control us.

We should not have to hustle for the attention or affections of others.

If you are with people that are tied to the telephone – may you have the boldness to ask them – Can we connect without distractions today? And I pray they hear you.

But if they don’t want to do that, I pray God brings you the people that think you are pretty dang special and worthy to put their phones away for.

Don’t make people hustle for your attention. Put that phone away and start to connect deeper.

~ XXOO Michelle Cosby Bollom

Survival Maintenance & Growth

We need four hugs a day for survival.

We need eight hugs a day for maintenance.

We need twelve hugs a day for growth.

Virginia Satir was an internationally acclaimed therapist. She knew a lot about what people need to be healthy and happy and to live in good relationships with each other. She was very smart, and most of her advice was pretty simple.

Take hugs, for example. What could be more simple? One person reaching out to touch another person with safety and care. Very simple.

But what do hugs give people?

Comfort. Acceptance. The basics we all need no matter where we are at today.

So, let us all remember to Give Hugs today!

Slow Down

A woman’s ego often pushes her into a whirlwind life of busyness.

If people adore you and heap compliments on your pretty head every time you serve them, be wary, it’s easy to mistake the voice of flattery for the voice of God.

The voice of God is always speaking to us, and always trying to get our attention.

But His voice is a still small voice, and we must at least slow down in order to listen.

~ Eugenia Price

Be Refilled

Often a life that is all “go” lacks the “know”.

Without stillness, we can invite illness, sickness of soul, and burn out of body.

Stop allowing “doing” to replace “being”.

We and others suffer when we cannot be still for long enough to sustain what is being entrusted to us.

When you get still, you can be refilled.

#TodaysTakeaways from the book “Breathe”by Charlotte Gambill

Firm And Constant Support

We all can struggle against our own human weaknesses and failings at times.

But we can all be confident and encouraged in this: God is Always Loyal!

Whatever God starts

He finishes.

Whatever God promises

He fulfills.

No problem is too great

for Him to handle.

No circumstance is beyond

His control.

He Is Always Loyal. (A Firm & Constant Support)

So if Christ is in you-that means NOTHING is too hard for you either!

—XXOO Michelle

There is Nothing too hard for You, God.~ Jeremiah 32:17

Manipulation Is Never Love

2 prayers I have prayed daily for years:

God show me who my true friends are – Bring only true Divine Connections into my life.”

“God reveal any dark motives or hidden agendas and bring all issues to light. Let nothing hidden stay hidden. Expose what needs exposing.”

Although sometimes painful, God is always faithful to answer these prayers.

While it seems like a shock when someone betrays you – trust that it is never a shock to God. He knows. He will handle it. Let Him fight your battles.

People disappoint. God never does!

Embrace the Gift Of Goodbye – there is always a reason for the removing.

And remember – manipulation of any kind is not love!

Don’t be afraid to disappoint some folks! Be uniquely you and allow God to answer these prayers for you too.

—XXOO Michelle Cosby Bollom