Ready For What?

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I just don’t get it. What DOES that mean? Ready now…for what? Hmm, oh well. This is what I have said every time I’ve heard, “Lord I’m Ready Now,” by Plumb. Until last night. After a full day of girlfriends, laughter, prayer, and the insistence that I have one of, “those,” conversations with a friend. Yes, the conversation that I had precisely been working so hard to avoid. Driving home from the girls and their, “PHS-Prayer Hot Seat,” I couldn’t shake the unanimous resounding of their voices. Nah, I’ll just go on with the uneasiness, anxiousness, road-blocking, tear inducing days that had served me so well lately. Or not. Ok then…let’s rip this thing off like a band aid, get.it.over with. That would be my A#1, Sister-Christian plan. And so it began. The instant I sent the text asking for a meeting, I watched to make sure it went through, I could have no hiccups in this deal. Then I got the first undeniable sign that God was indeed in this meeting. The text immediately said, “Delivered,” only this time unlike any other text I had ever sent, I knew I…, was being, “Delivered.” The hours leading to the meeting were peaceful, but oh-so-full of prayer. I was in the driver’s seat, yet had no idea what I was going to say. I knew God had the words for me. He had taught me this on many other occasions. Finally, it was time to go. The car was full of worship songs, I knew them all and just sang along. As I entered the parking lot of the agreed upon meeting spot, Plumb began to sing the song that I hadn’t ever been able to connect with. As I parked the car and listened…..I knew I was, “Ready Now.” The timing was right, I would let go, the walls were down, and God would be with us. And He was. ~ Heather Doughty

“Lord I am Ready Now” by Plumb
Lyrics:

I just let go
And I feel exposed
But its so beautiful
Cuz this is who I am
I’ve been such a mess
But now I can’t care less
I could bleed to death

Oh Lord I’m ready now
All the walls are down
Time is running out
And I wanna make this count
I ran away from you
And did what I wanted to
But I don’t wanna let you down
Oh Lord I’m ready now
Lord I’m ready now

You called my name
I turned away
But now I
Am listening
I was so caught up
In who I’m not
Can you please forgive me?
I’ve nothing left to hide
No reason’s left to lie
Give me another chance

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Get Connected

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Do you shy away from really connecting with other women in your life? Are you afraid of being judged? Afraid of being hurt by a friendship? Well, stop that! We are live wires to
connecting others to God. God works in and through us to connect with people…especially women! We need relationships with other women for this very reason!

So open up, buttercup!
Mind you, you can’t just tell everyone …your junk, but there are certain relationships in your life that God has ordained to help you through what you are going through at this very moment.

I get so excited and encouraged when I am a part of other women connecting, getting vulnerable, and relating and encouraging each other through God! Seriously, it brings me such joy!

So, what if you don’t have women in your life that you feel comfortable relating or sharing with? Well, pray for them to pop up. Be that person for someone else!

When I moved to the outskirts of Houston with my would-be husband, in 2006, I had one friend in our neighborhood and my closest friend was still living in town miles away. I remember Jeff telling me for such a long time, you really need to make friends. You need to join a play group or something, but I just wasn’t ready. I just wasn’t ready to connect. I wasn’t happy with myself or fully happy with the life I was living.

It took me almost 2 years to join a Bible study group at my church. That one group of women has been a part of radically changing my life. That one group has evolved and grown and is still a foundation for me. That one group has helped me open up, reveal, get real, deal, heal and start stepping into my calling of encouraging others through Christ!

So, get vulnerable ladies. Find some peeps to get real with and blow the roof off your life!

~Stephanie Wanic

#godsbeautysecrets #beautyqueenwisdom #getreal#getvulnerable

Only Iron Sharpens Iron

~Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens a friend’s character. ~Proverbs 27:17 ISV

You know the movie “The Help” The famous part where the nanny tells the little girl you is kind you is smart you is pretty you is important…
Well some grown woman need to be told You is nasty you is grouchy you is ugly and it ain’t all about you!

Every group has one. You know the kind.

You could powder their butts all day long and they would still be chapped about something.

They can’t celebrate others, they are jealous and resentful. They easily get mad and offended and often bolt from the sandbox or isolate themselves so people will come running after them. If no one runs after them they always show back up because they thrive on this type of behavior. They are usually angry people but pretend to be meek and sweet. They get upset if they did not get invited somewhere or if they did not know some bit of information. They make the group afraid to not include her or want to keep secret their plans for fear of this person. That person is usually so skilled in sarcasm and they love to shoot sarcastic digs trying to hurt others in what they think is a subtle way. When you call them on their behavior they profusely deny it and constantly use health or tough situations as an excuse for acting badly or justifying their constant bad moods and words. They never fully take ownership for their part in anything. They are big time blamers. They operate in denial or a false self and try to pretend they are being honest and true. They turn on the water works as a manipulation tactic when no one is taking their bait.

Some of you right about now are nodding your heads and almost feeling your energy drain from your body because you know all too well these types of people.

We can all change. We all have to want to.

The person I described above is like the man on his mat for 38 years, they don’t want to get well. You can shout at them over and over to get up, you could pick them up and cannon ball right into the healing waters with them and they will still be complaining that something was wrong or something or someone prevented their healing, or someone got more than they did. Sometimes they appear to be healed and are all smiles and lovely for a few days or weeks, than they go back to their mat and just start to complain and act the same way all over again. I am here today to share what God spoke to my heart. Only Iron Sharpens Iron. When you keep allowing someone like this to wreck your circle of friends or groups with all their drama and pettiness you are expending precious energy and time focused on trying to make sure that person is not getting upset, that your armor is taking on too many dings and your sword is dull from all those dings of distractions and lack of sharpening. The enemy can swoop in and destroy you, your circle, and your group because you are all side tracked by that constant complainer that everyone walks on eggshells around. I love the quote by Joyce Meyer “You can be pitiful or powerful but you can’t be both!” God is asking us to RSVP with a big fat NO to their next Pity Party. God is calling us to not entertain this type of drama or behaviors anymore. It is time to set some boundaries and use our big girl words with them. If they still don’t want to be sharpened and change their ways then it is time for the Gift of Goodbye! It is time to prune some branches girlies and get rid of those sucker branches. You or your groups can’t bear fruit or grow with them always sucking the life out of everything. Not everyone can go where God is calling you.The enemy is real and it is time to recognize that this is bondage by the enemy to your circles and groups. I personally don’t want to miss out on anything God has for me by being bound to a toxic person. I want to make sure my armor is complete and my sword is fully sharpened by strong likeminded women. I believe in restoration, not simply preserving.It is time to Rise Up Higher! It is time for some to grow up and start acting like a child of the Most High King and not just a big ole “King Baby”. ~ XXOO Michelle Bollom

Characteristics of a “King Baby”- Simple list: immaturity – egocentricity , falsely Humble, self-loving, omnipotent, arrogant inferiority complex

Expanded list: • Tries to work people against each other to get their own way • seek approval and frequently lose their own identities in the process • able to make good first impression but unable to follow through • have difficulty accepting personal criticism and become threatened and angry when criticized • have addictive personalities and are driven to extremes • are often immobilized by anger and frustration and are rarely satisfied • are usually lonely even when surrounded by people • are chronic complainers who blame others for what is wrong in their lives • feel unappreciated and think they don’t fit • see the world as a jungle filled with selfish people who aren’t there for them • see everything as a catastrophe, a life or death satiation • judge life in absolutes: black and white, right and wrong • live in the past, fearful of the future • have strong feeling of dependence and exaggerated fears of abandonment • fear failure and rejections and don’t try new things that they might not do well • are obsessed with money and material things • dream big plans and schemes and have little ability to make them happen • prefer to charm superiors and intimidate subordinates • often become addicted to excitement • hold emotional pain within