A Hard Life With Many Tears 

  
By this time Eli was very old. He kept getting reports on how his sons were ripping off the people and sleeping with the women who helped out at the sanctuary. Eli took them to task: “What’s going on here? Why are you doing these things? I hear story after story of your corrupt and evil carrying on. Oh, my sons, this is not right! These are terrible reports I’m getting, stories spreading right and left among God’s people! If you sin against another person, there’s help—God’s help. But if you sin against God, who is around to help?”

But they were far gone in disobedience and refused to listen to a thing their father said. So God, who was fed up with them, decreed their death. But the boy Samuel was very much alive, growing up, blessed by God and popular with the people.~ 1 Samuel 2:22-26 MSG 

Today’s download came a little differently.  
My waking time verse was 1 Samuel 22:23; Stay with me; don’t be afraid. The man who wants to kill you is trying to kill me too. You will be safe with me.  

But I wrote it down as 1 Samuel 2:23.

I had actually wrote the verse down wrong- …or did I? 

When unpacking I found the verse above in the Message translation. The subtitle was “A Hard Life With Many Tears”.  
I could relate to those words.  My life was hard and filled with many tears before God.  Sometimes it can still be very much hard and full of tears but thankfully now I have a Helper and Hope.  
So my verse for today for my 13 of 13 Fasting Experience Downloads, strangely came about by my error but I believe God loves to even use our mistakes for good! 

Here are the notes on this passage:  
Eli exercised “tough-love as he confronted his sons about their blatant sin. He surely hoped they would make significant changes in their lives. Unfortunately, they didn’t listen to their father. The young men refused to set boundaries on their behavior, and they displayed no desire to change. Their choice to go their own way brought dire consequences – ultimately, physical death. Eli, too, made a choice: he opted to ignore his sons continued disobedience. Thus the high priest failed in his responsibility to God and was eventually judged for it. Eli was told that his descendants would bring him tears of grief and would die in the prime of their life. What a bitter harvest we reap when we refuse to turn from temptation and embrace God’s power to change. ~Life Recovery Bible 

Lord, may we always speak the truth in love and give us ears to hear the truth, even when it’s tough. I desire to change Lord. Help me to set boundaries with my behaviors. Help me not to overlook or ignore disobedience, in myself or in my children that You have given me responsibility over. Lead me from temptation Lord, as I embrace You and Your power to change. Amen.  
                       ~XXOO Michelle Bollom 

An Overload Of Downloads 

  
Today is my 8th day of the fasting experience.

Today was also weigh in day. I am happy to report that I am -7 lbs. I was a little discouraged because it was very hard and I was really wanting to pull a double digit on the scale, but as I went to the Lord with my feelings, I felt the verse “don’t grow weary in well doing” settle in my spirit. I knew later I would look up that for verse reference, as well as (5) other verses I had received from my waking times or dreams. It was going to be a full day of unpacking but first I was off to church. 

During the message my pastor referenced my first verse! I did not even have to look it up! Confirmation! 
Let us not grow weary in well doing, for in due time we will reap a harvest, if we do not give up.~ Galatians 6:9 The Berean Study Bible 
I was so excited. I also thought, ok no need to unpack the others this must be the one for today so I thought I had my 8 for 8 download and I was done.

Below is the notes in the Life Recovery Bible for Galatians 6:9:
Paul left an important reminder for us all. We will always reap what we have sown. In other words, sins and addictions have painful consequences. We might be able to fool ourselves for a while into thinking that certain activities in relationships are all right. But when the consequences catch up with us, there will be no denying the facts. We need to take this warning seriously and take steps to change now. We don’t have to wait to hit bottom before we act. Using God’s word as a measuring stick, we can take a fearless moral inventory and make the necessary adjustments before it’s too late. ~Life Recovery Bible 
But not so fast…..
When I got home I felt led to start to unpack the other verses. Right away I knew with each one that it was going to be a significant download and confirmation party. 
So today an overload of downloads came rushing in from all the verses. (6) in total. 

The 2nd verse:
But the world must know that I love the Father. So I do exactly what the Father told me to do.

“Come now, let’s go.” ~ John 14:31 ERV 
I did what the Lord told me to do. I was obedient and it bore fruit! 
Come now let’s go….to the next verse 

I made sure the altar was supplied with the offering of wood and the offerings of firstfruits, too—each at the right time.

Nehemiah: O God—my God—remember me with favor. ~ Nehemiah 13:31 The VOICE 
Nehemiah was a great rebuilder. He reconstructed the wall of Jerusalem. He helped the people to rebuild their broken lives. There is no question that God gave credit to his good and faithful servant! And God will honor our attempts to rebuild, too. We also will experience God’s kindness in our life. ~Life Recovery Bible 

I understood this verse, and from a conversation at church when giving an offering of my kiddos first fruits from their babysitting money and how years ago we instilled in our children the importance of taking 10 % off every dollar they earn, be it Christmas, birthday, dog sitting or babysitting. 10% goes back to the Lord. So today they turned in an offering from all their first fruits within the last month. Then the LRB notes are what solidified the download for me. 

 Today was a day of so many confirmations.  

A woman approached me and said how much she loves the Restored Ministries Facebook page and blog. Just like Nehemiah helped rebuild broken lives, that is our mission for Restored Ministries. I thanked her and thanked God now for confirming I was in His will.
The 4th verse was:
Arise [from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you—rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you!~ Isaiah 60:1 AMPC 
Gods people are called to let their light shine to the nations. God’s desire is to transform all of us and then to use us to bring his truth to others. ~Life Recovery Bible 
The LRB again confirmed what God has placed on my heart. Real People Real Stories Real Healing. Sharing His transformational truths with others. When we share our stories we repair our stories. Living Restored, mind, body and soul. Everyone has a restoration story. 

Then the 5th verse was: 
And His gifts were [varied; He Himself appointed and gave men to us] some to be apostles (special messengers), some prophets (inspired preachers and expounders), some evangelists (preachers of the Gospel, traveling missionaries), some pastors (shepherds of His flock) and teachers.~ Ephesians 4:11 AMPC 
We have been gifted in ways that make us necessary to others. Others have been gifted in ways that make them necessary to us. Some of us have special gifts for teaching others about God. Others of us may have the gift of caring for hurting people. Whatever gifts we might have, they are important for the emotional and spiritual growth of others. Since God has a purpose for each of us, it is important that we strive to know him better through prayer and meditation on His word. As we seek him, he will show us what our gifts are and how we can use them to help others. As we share our gifts and receive the benefits of other peoples gifts, we will find the body of Christ growing stronger and healthier. ~Life Recovery Bible 

I have had quite a few people in the last week tell me that they were thankful for my gifts. Exhortation, helping others, teaching, bringing them a word in due season. So I knew this verse and LRB notes were confirming all that. A word caught my eye and so I looked up expounder– I again laughed and thanked God for making me an expounder! I never want to leave a detail out when I tell a story. I can be long winded for sure! Learning that actually can be a gift is good news for me! It also is a person who actively supports or favors a cause, which again full circle confirmation on Restored Ministries Mission. 
Expounder- explain in detail; elucidate: 

a person who actively supports or favors a cause. 

Then the final and 6th verse was:
Oh, come back to God. Live by the principles of love and justice, and always be expecting much from Him, your God. Hosea 12:6 TLB 
God asks His people to love Him by loving others. It is only through God that we will treat others as God would have them treated. ~Life Recovery Bible 
It was a total confirmation to me about giving up the idol of food or other things and coming back full force to all things of God. Don’t limit God, expect much from Him.  
When we love others, even those hard to love, those that reject you and can’t even give you a warm smile back or acknowledge you, or support what you have been called to do, you just ask God to help you love them and show you what He loves about them. As we grow in love for God we naturally grow in love for others too. 

So for my overload of downloads here is the recap:
Keep going, don’t grow weary in well doing, don’t give up. 
Keep being obedient, it bears fruit and unlocks blessings. 
Give God the first fruits of everything. Keep helping to reach people with the message of Jesus and how He restores and rebuild lives. 
Keep shining- shine your Light. God is transforming you so you can share with others His transformational truths. Keep paying it forward.
Keep studying and learning to know God deeper. Share your gifts and embrace others gifts. We all need each other to grow healthier and stronger. Stay in community, stay connected. Keep teaching, preaching, sharing messages, introducing people to Jesus and expounding on all the goodness of God. 
And bring it all back to square one-
Love God 

Love Others 

                     ~XXOO Michelle Bollom 

Victory Secured 

  
Can you imagine a world free from war? 

Everywhere we look there is some type of war somewhere breaking out or raging on. War against countries, war against people, war against families. 

 We can even wage wars against ourselves.  

Today is day 7 of my fasting experience and God is now 7 for 7 on the downloads! 

This morning my waking time was 2:24 am. The verse was- 
Now the name of Hebron formerly was Kiriath-arba.(Arba was the greatest man among the Anakim.) And the land had rest from war.~ Joshua 14:15 ESV

And the land had rest from war…..
My war seems to be with my myself and my emotions.
My emotions can be so out of control at times they feel like they are running straight for the battle lines and then back to retreating at warped speed. Almost like those dreaded sprints I had to run in track as a teenager. 

 That makes my legs hurt just thinking about them! 

Then there is the war I seem to fight on the battlefield of my mind. That is the one that my flesh and my spirit like to also war in, in addition to my emotions!

Somedays that feels like playing a pin ball machine. The fancy double ball release kind. 

A stressful moment and wham and I could ping off a dozen different emotions. Not one will land me into that little “sweet spot” that releases the bells to go off and the machine to shake and the score board to advance and you get another ball to keep playing. 
No, Instead it is like they ping around and go into the gutter ball area of pin ball and I have to keep pulling back the spring to release another ball and press buttons to move levers frantically to keep my ball moving and hope I don’t run out of balls.

Victory on those days seems so far away when the war is raging on. 

My unpacking took me to look up the Life Recovery Bible notes:

Age alone does not make a person feel or act old. In fact, Caleb willingly sought to enter into battle against some of the more powerful armies that inhabited the land. Because he trusted God fully, Caleb succeeded in securing his promised inheritance. We need to continue to realize that in our own life, if God wants to grant us victory over any problem we encounter, that victory is already secured. 

                ~The Life Recovery Bible 

God is showing me through this fast that there will be stressful days and stress less days, happy days and not so happy days. Each day we need to navigate through His word and His truths instead of pinging off our emotions. Then we will land in that “sweet spot” – the spot of resting and living in His resurrection power. The spot where our victory is already secured. The spot where the land is at rest from all war.   

God actually loves when we run out of balls. That is when He steps in and takes over. He is the Original Pin Ball Wizard after all.  

                  ~XXOO Michelle Bollom 

The Magic of 30



I recently completed my first Whole30. If you don’t know what I’m talking about Google it, and you will see the lifestyle-change-jumpstart diet I’m talking about. In a nutshell, it’s cutting out sugar, dairy, grains and legumes. All the cutting out in order to reset your body. 
Well, I seriously never, like never, ever thought I’d make it 30 days with no cheating! But….
I did it!!
Seriously, it gave me the same sense of accomplishment that training and completing half marathons has done. I’ve been so proud of myself. 
As the 30th day approached, I started feeling anxious, I didn’t want to go back to eating all the junk I usually ate. I wanted a lifestyle change. So I’ve jumped right into another Whole30 just to break some bad habits, and then I’ll transition into a Paleo eating lifestyle…if that’s what you call it! 
You see, I know myself. I have some addictive tendencies, mixed with stubbornness and a lack of self-control. BUT, God; I have Him. We all have Him. His Holy Spirit pulls me through. His Holy Spirit can pull you through. His Holy Spirit, I know, carried me, and continues to carry me, through this diet that can feel like deprivation, but is really a reset for real freedom from foods that are not good for my body. 
So I realized, I need a prayer reset. A worry reset. A mindset reset. Is there a worry or a constant something that takes up your mind space? What if we gave it to God for 30 days straight? Every day. Every time we wanted to worry or fret about it, What if we turned that worry into a prayer for 30 days? I think we would reset. I think we would train our minds to turn to prayer and God first, before we worry or try to figure things out on our own. 
So I’ve decided to put myself on a 30 Day Prayer Challenge. For 30 days I’m going to pray about the one thing that’s taking up my mind space and making me fret! I’m going to journal my prayer. I’ll listen to music some days while I pray. Other days I’ll take communion and pray specifically about this one thing. I believe God will change my heart during this process.  I won’t change God’s mind, but He will change mine. 
You know what else will happen? 
God’s peace will take over and replace my anxiety, fret, worry and desire to do this myself!! Now that’s a huge incentive for praying!!! So join me friends!! Pick one thing. The one thing that is of upmost concern or desire in your life. Make a commitment to pray for 30 days straight and see what happens!!! I’m excited. I’m waiting with expectation! 
Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God. And God’s peace [shall be yours, that tranquil state of a soul assured of its salvation through Christ, and so fearing nothing from God and being content with its earthly lot of whatever sort that is, that peace] which transcends all understanding shall garrison and mount guard over your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. ~Philippians 4‬:‭6-7‬ AMP
Head on over to my God’s Beauty Secrets page on Facebook for daily inspiration about prayer! Start today!! 
~Stephanie Wanic
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The Climb

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Grander earth has quaked before
Moved by the sound of His voice
Seas that are shaken and stirred
Can be calmed and broken for my regard

Through it all, through it all
My eyes are on You
Through it all, through it all
It is well with me

Far be it from me to not believe
Even when my eyes can’t see

And this mountain that’s in front of me
Will be thrown into the midst of the sea

So let go my soul and trust in Him
The waves and wind still know His name

It is well with my soul

Whatever that mountain looks like just let God help you overcome it. Let Him help you move it, climb it, not fear it; but enjoy the journey over, around and through.

I’m reaching that point of letting my soul let go and completely trust in Him.

I have been letting this song wash over me for a couple of weeks. (See SongSundays from earlier this month for the video of the song here: https://restoredministriesblog.wordpress.com/2015/01/11/all-is-well/

The timing of finding it couldn’t be more perfect for me as I am in the midst of radically changing my eating habits to restore my immune system, help control food allergies, chronic hives and angioedema.
Well, this craziness has had me reaching; literally crying out to God, to strengthen me as I embark on more life change. He’s already walked me through numerous trials and triumphs, addiction, sorrow, lack of inner peace, desiring love and attention from everyone and everything but Him, and a rocky marriage. He’s walked me through, and clear to the other side in many ways enjoying places of peace, rest, restoration and hope that I am always desiring to share with others. So I had to ask myself once again. Do you trust Him, fully trust Him? Do you believe what His Word says when He says He lives in You? His Power dwells within you?
I finally got my revelation Sunday night as I combed through and studied His Word and journaled pages and pages of His love for me.

I’ve decided, “It is well with my soul.” Let’s dig in God. I desire to trust you with all of me. One of the missing links was making the decision to accept I needed to change this area. Then I reached out to God, crying out, willing to surrender. Seeking Him at every turn. Being vulnerable and getting prayer and encouragement from family and friends.

I’m ready God. Let’s go. I am ready to climb this mountain.

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.” ~James‬ ‭1‬:‭2-6‬ NIV

– Stephanie Wanic
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When God Winks

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Wink-close and open one eye quickly, typically to indicate that something is a joke or a secret or as a signal of confirmation or affection or a greeting.

Have you ever had a moment or situation that you just felt like you got a big ole wink from God? Recently I went for my six month labs to check to see how I am doing health-wise. I dread these labs. I know dread is wrong so I am working on that too…not dreading them or anything else.
I used to get labs every three months and now I get a little reprieve and the doctor has cut it back to twice a year. The problem is not the needle stick… My problem is the fear of the results. The results can reveal when I have been disobedient and in a state of rebellion. I confess I have been lacked on my exercise and on my eating. I have had a hard time being consistent in making these areas a priority lately. I have been on “vacation eating mode” for the last two years. I am not quite sure what happened to get me off track or keep me derailed. The Holy Spirit has been speaking to me about this. I want to obey and have the spirit lead me but I seem to do it for a few days or weeks but I always seem to keep reverting back to old habits and don’t fully heed the Spirit’s leading. I can’t seem to find my groove. My last two labs revealed great areas with the need for improvement. My clothes and body are also speaking to me about those choices and my avoidance of exercise. I went in convinced that no matter what the doctor said I would own my choices, apologize and promise to do better. Surprisingly I got the PA instead of my doctor so inside I was relieved. Then the PA precedes to mention the scale fluctuations and previous not so great labs. I go into my spill about life has gotten in the way, I am really busy and have not been making the best choices… Ya ya ya— blah blah blah. The PA in a very plain and firm but still polite kind of way says “you know what to do, you know how to eat, you know the importance of exercise. It is your choice, do you want to have another stroke? Do you want to die a premature death? Keep doing what your doing, it’s your choice- you get to choose.” (Ouch!)
I normally would of been offended so evidently all the work God is doing with me on being unoffendable must be taking root. I was not offended at all. I just nodded and said to her, “you are absolutely right!”

I felt in that moment God had just winked one of those side mouth clicking noise one eye closed finger pointing – aha! Did you catch all that.. kind of winks. It was not a wink of a joke or secret, no it was His loving and affectionate way of confirming what His Holy Spirit has been trying to speak to me for awhile. He needed to get my attention in a very direct way. I smiled and Thanked God for His wink!
God speaks to us all in different ways. I have resolved that I want to make choices for health and strength not just to look and feel better but so that I can be the best version of Me I can possibly be so that I can do all God has called me to do. I also don’t want to grieve or disobey God. So I dusted off some of His great Promises to focus on and prayed for God to give me some “stickitude”.
Have you had a wink from God? Tell us in the comments below.

~XXOO Michelle Bollom

You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is good for you. You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is beneficial. ~1 Corinthians 10:23 NLT

God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.~ 1 Corinthians 6:20 NLT

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. ~ Philippians 4:13 NLT

My Diet Is Making Me Sick!

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I have a personal mantra. The general idea is: “Be a good example…or at the very least a cautionary tale.” So, it is with a good measure of trepidation that I tell you that lately, I’ve been that cautionary tale. I’ve been overeating. I am kind of embarrassed to speak that into cyber-space, but really only the truth will do in order to help others, right? If we feel isolated, alone and a freak because of the way we feel, we tend not to reach out to others for help. Who is safe, anyway? Who can we trust with our hearts, our secret thoughts…?
This goes back to the last couple of years. For me, here’s where it starts. I am hungry. That is my general default. But it’s not what you think. I wake up hungry. Always. So even though I’m hungry, and even though I live in a country where food is as plentiful as the air I breathe, I won’t satisfy my hunger for a couple of hours yet. For me, it’s not an actual “Oh, I got busy and just forgot to eat breakfast.” thing. It’s usually “When I get my husband and kids out the door, I’ll eat breakfast” kind of thing. Or “I can stick a load of laundry in before I sit down and eat” thing. I’ve decided I like to defer. You know why? Because it gives me a measure of control. I am captain of my own destiny. In a world marked by chaos and confusion, people having a say-so of my schedule and who, conversely, don’t want to cooperate with my plans, I.have.control. Read into this, perfectionism. It all boils down to perfectionism and control.
Let’s talk about my diet. What I have been eating is literally killing me. When I say I’m overeating, I’m not just talking about food. I am talking about something bigger: I “eat my feelings”. My friends and I have been batting this phrase around for a long time, so it’s familiar to me, but might not be to you. Bear with me – you’ll see what I mean. Because I decide to wait for breakfast, I will start snacking as I get the kids ready for school. I start off with a small bite of comparison. I look at the lunch I have packed for my kids and think to myself. Yikes. “Too many carbs” or “not organic fruit” or “this is too much sugar”, or whatever demon the latest nutritional news source is talking about. Comparison doesn’t taste good, but because I am hungry, I keep snacking. Then I realize, comparison left a bad taste in my mouth, so I decide to try and wipe out that taste with a different taste. So I unwrap some “resentment”, take a big bite and think “Well, I am doing the best I can with three teenagers who are about to eat me out of house and home!” I am currently feeding an athlete, a very healthy eater and one who, apparently, has a vegetable/fruit aversion and is probably throwing away that “not organic fruit” anyway. Oh! And because of our current culture of leaving reviews for everything and everyone that serves us, my children are not shy about critiquing my efforts. They honestly believe this helps me. What?!? Another bite of resentment. I notice that someone left the jar of “reproach” open, so before I replace the lid, I take a spoon, get a big bite and mumble under my breath: “You try doing this all school year and see what you come up with!” or “All I ever do is drive you places and go to the grocery store to buy food that you will either complain about or wipe out the first day!” So then, my efforts to love on them and serve them by feeding them healthy food becomes a battlefield. At this point, I know “mad” is hiding in the cookie jar for an extreme emergency, so I go over, look both ways, take off the lid and reach in. “Everyone in my house is so ungrateful! Why do I even bother? I’m just going to ______! (I fill in the blank with whatever heinous thing I can think of.) That will show them!” The kids leave for school, but I sit in my chair, with the cookie jar, and keep bingeing. This can last untold minutes or even hours unless something or someone interrupts me.
Perfectionists eat their feelings. Or starve their feelings. Or work their feelings. Or mask their feelings with spending, alcohol, smoking or any number of unhealthy lifestyle choices. I’m sure we are all thinking of our own way we deal. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman or a mother or a father or don’t even have kids. Allowing your feelings to be the boss of you is not the way to go. Not if you desire life to the fullest. So this is/was, could possibly still resemble me some days. Let me show you the better way.
Take Two:
I wake up. I am hungry. There’s a song lingering in my mind. I make a mental note of the name and the artist because I’ll need it later. I stop before my feet hit the ground. I say a quick prayer to God thanking Him for the safety of the night and the peace of the moment that is “right now”. I pray that I don’t go borrowing trouble from the next thirty minutes or an hour or even later in the day. I just thank Him for right now. Because I know that Jesus and His Holy Spirit are there with me, as well, I say good morning to Them, too. I ask them to help me plan out my day and for favor to get the ultimately most important things done, whether or not that means my to-do list gets satisfied or not. Hear me: the most important things (to God) only, please. Let the other junk just fall off or go away entirely. I.release.control. I go find my phone. I look at my “Jesus Calling” devotional and find a few other Bible verses that apply. I then go find that song from earlier and start playing it loudly in the kitchen. Today it was Casting Crown’s “Just Be Held”. This is the message that Jesus was singing over me as I slept last night: “Stop holding on (to your control) and just (decide to) be held”. I drink some water, then say a quick “Thank You, Lord!” for the invention of coffee and start my morning. Immediately afterward, I make a healthy smoothie for the kids and take half for myself. Immediate mood enhancement! When they wake up, I can greet them with a smile on my face and in my heart. I can greet them with love that is now not just my own, but the Father’s.
I don’t have to stuff things down anymore. I am in overflow mode. You see, God longs to feed me every morning with His word and His love. He is still in the business of providing manna. Strength, love, help and hope…just enough for each day, yet always enough to fill me up and to overflow to others. Jesus longs to be invited to hold my hand and walk me through every situation of my day. He wants to give His play-by-play commentary of what is really happening in my life. Not in a condemning way, but in a loving, teaching, coaching way. In a “You’ll get ‘em next time, Tiger!” kind of way. This gives me confidence. Confidence in the fact that I am doing the best I can. Confidence that I have a heart lined up with God’s word and fueled by the Father’s love. Confidence in the grace and saving mercy of Jesus and the constant, caring presence of the Holy Spirit.
What about you? Is what you’ve been eating making you sick? Try a better diet. Not one where you have to be “perfect” in order to see results, but the one where you just show up with yourself and nothing else but God and things change. Show Him your diet journal and ask Him to help you.
~ Debbie Bouckley

Taste and see that the LORD is good! How blessed is the person who trusts in Him! ~ Psalm 34:8 ISV

May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. ~Psalm 19:14 NIV

Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. ~Ephesians 4:31-32 NLT