Better can be defined as superior quality, improved in health/healthier, and/or to increase the good qualities of.



Ecclesiastes 7:8 “Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.”



Growing up, people would often ask me…do you think you are better? At the time I did not understand exactly what that meant; but I remember always answering that question with “no, I don’t think I am better!” Honestly, I would get offended when people would ask me that. Some of you may have heard the same question growing up and like me felt extremely uncomfortable with the question and answering the question. Many of you may have answered the question the same way I did-some of you may have simply brushed the question off-some of you may have stopped becoming a better you and remain stagnant or remained average or what was considered norm at the time- and the rest of you may have replied with a serious, yes I am. I am not sure what your response was at the time; but I can tell you that my response to that same question has changed over the years.  


About one month ago, someone asked me the same question… Do you think you are better? In the context of the conversation I again answered the question by saying, “no, I don’t think I am better!” This time however, I pondered on the question differently. I thought to myself, why would someone ask me that? What did I do to make them feel like I am being better? What exactly does being better mean?


Here’s what I discovered. In life, many of us are striving to become better people. As our expectations of change, our desire for a superior quality of life changes as well. Many of us desire to have:

• A better relationship with GOD

• Healthier relationships with others

• Physical, emotional, and spiritual health

• A better relationship with our children

• A better relationship with our spouses

• Increased finances


When you have a desire to become a better you, and align yourself with GOD, he will begin stripping away your past armor and re-coat you with your new armor. Many people will not understand why you are wearing a new armor and will ridicule what you have on because they don’t understand or they haven’t accepted the new you. When you are stripped away from past encounters, do not discredit your past or pass judgement on others, simply allow GOD to continue to do his work. Be sure to always express his love. So here’s the new response to being asked “do you think you are better?”. Yes, I am better and I am working on becoming a better me! Instead of dimming your light; be thankful of GOD’s grace, mercy, and favor on your life. There’s no need to be boastful or prideful; but you should be unapologetically bold about letting people know that your vision for your life aligns with GOD’s vision for your life and that GOD wants you to be the best you- you can be! The scripture tells us that the end of a thing is better than its beginning. Thank GOD for a strong ending…



Dear God,

Thank you so much for helping me become a better me. Thank you for helping me see myself the way you see me. I might have had rough beginnings, but I am so grateful that my story ends with a better ending. I love you.


Commit to the challenge. 

 I DARE you. ~Lereca Monik 
#mydearestsister #Idareyou #restoredministries #itstimeforachange #anewyou #LiveRestored 


I love you just as you are

Flawed and imperfect

Despite how you may feel

Your self-directed criticisms

The parts of you that you despise

I will embrace

In your ambition and struggle

Through accomplishment and mistakes

I am beside you

The broken pieces and blinding beauty of who you are

Is written on my heart

I cherish your growth and transformation

As well as that which is unchangeable

I accept the whole of you

The seen and unseen

The known and unknown

You walk through countless days

Your weary eyes a mystery

Driven by love and determination

You endure


Your focus and ambition is testimony to your devotion

Through struggle and frustration you labor

In quiet torment you are relentless

I will be your solace

I will wrap you in peace and comfort

Soothing the ache you do not speak

I will be your passion

I am ravenous for you

I will be your encouragement

My faith in you is boundless

I will be your strength

I will undergird you with an unshakable foundation

I see you as you are

And I love you
           ~Dana Smith 

Can God Trust You 


Here’s the question of the day? Can you be trusted? Christians can we be trusted? 

People are always stating things like if they won the lottery they would do this and they would do that.. or if they made more money they would this, that and the other..but the ultimate question is can you be trusted? We all want God’s blessings but can He trust us enough to bless us?

Let’s be honest no one wants to be in a relationship with anyone that they can’t trust. Whether it’s our husband,wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, we want to assume that we can trust our mates and they will not lie, cheat or steal from us.

Even if it’s something as simple as employment, we want to be able to trust our employer to tell the truth about the possibilities in making more money in our career or even a promotion.

In most of our day to day lives we pretty much demand honesty and trust from everyone that we encounter.

Some people wonder why they are not where they should be in life and they want to know why they are not being blessed, but God wants to know that He can trust us.

Example: If He blesses us with a ministry would we continue to push the ministry to the fullest or would we take shortcuts or delegate the ministry to someone else?
Example: If He blessed us with expensive cars,bigger homes or a better job will we remain humble and continue to help others who are less fortunate?
Luke 12:48 But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.

Understand that the more God gives us more is REQUIRED from you.

Scripture used for today’s devotion:

Job 1:7-8

7 The Lord said to Satan, “Where have you come from?” Satan answered the Lord, “From roaming throughout the earth, going back and forth on it.” 

8 Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.” 

In this verse where Satan looked for someone “righteous”, Jesus said, ” Have you considered my friend Job?” Most people have always admired the scriptures of Job because it taught us as Christians about patience and endurance but if we really think of this passage closely – Jesus REFERRED Job to Satan because he was TRUSTWORTHY.  Jesus knew that Job would do whatever to serve Him regardless of what trials and tribulations that he experienced

 Job lost his children, his livestock,property, dignity and some parts of his mind, but he was trustworthy because of his faithfulness to God.

So going back to the subject:

Most of us are known to stay faithful and trustworthy to God when we need something, but He is waiting on a steady commitment. With alot of us we are looking for a quick fix type of God. When most of us are down and out it’s really easy for us to stay faithful to God. When we experience deaths in the family, job loss, when bills are due we become really close with God.

He has the power to do all things for us but can He trust you? Walking with Christ is not a sugar daddy type of relationship where you only call on Him when you need Him, He needs a real commitment from you. ~LaNette Kincaid 
 {Sidenote: A sugar daddy is someone that only came around when you called him and he would pay and handle everything lacking for you. The sugar daddy wasn’t to serve any other purpose other than to handle bills and business-no real relationship. Also known as “The big spender”or a pimp}
Women With Gifts is an organization that promotes women to use the gifts and talents that GOD has given them for survival. Our organization believes in leadership development, teaching and motivating others. Essentially, we are the products of the seeds we’ve sown. Growing Roses from a Briefcase is an inspirational motto we use that means we are believers and we have the ability to do anything that we put our minds to. Growing roses from a briefcase sounds difficult but “WE can do all things through Christ who strengthens US.” Philippians 4:13
LaNette Kincaid is a Marine wife and mother of two, that took on the challenge of owning a business shortly after graduating college. Most of her tips and advice that you will read come from her personal experiences of trial and error. To see more of LaNette’s business and inspirational tips be sure to follow her on Twitter @LaNetteKincaid