What kind of friends do you have?
Are they people who complain or criticize a lot?
Are they people who make fun of laugh at us, gossip or put others down?
Are they flaky or are they faithful?
Are they people that live with no boundaries or moral codes and tempt you to constantly compromise? Or become a lower version of yourself? Or make you feel bad about yourself?
The kind of people we want to be will decide what kind of friends we have.
You are who you hang out with.
My daddy had a crude but true saying: “You can’t hang around 💩 poop and not expect to start smelling.”
If we want to feel sorry for ourselves, we will choose friends who will tell us how right we are and let us complain and stay stuck in self-pity or a victim mentality.
If we want to think we’re better than others, we will hang around people who laugh at and judge or gossip about others’ and think they are entitled and always justified in doing so.
If we want to be validated or feel better in our sins and shortcomings we will surround ourselves with people that have no boundaries or problem entertaining that which cheapens them.
But if we want to be the best we can be, we will pick friends who see the good in life and the good in all people. Those who will pray and encourage us to be uniquely ourselves and who will help us try harder at things that are difficult for us. Those who sharpen us on those days we are getting dull and falling short of God’s glorious standards or best for us.
Those people that don’t compete or envy and speak truth in love when we are buying lies. They don’t talk behind our backs, share our confidences with others, and always want the best for us even when we don’t see the best for ourselves in the moment.
I want to be that kind of friend.
I want to have those types of friends.
Divinely Connected by God.
Keeping Christ first and center always. Setting each other up for success. Celebrating each other.
Crying with each other.
Holding hands up when they can’t lift them for themselves.
No pretense – no envy – no junk or gunk. No exclusion or cliques or fake and phony stuff.
Those to call me out and those that are willing to hear the hard stuff too so we can snatch others and ourselves out of isolation and darkness and bondage when we need to.
How about you?
Take an inventory of the 5 closest people in your life. What are their strengths and weaknesses.
What do you think of the moment you think of them?
Do you feel at peace and uplifted and encouraged and don’t think of having to change how you look or act before you see them?
Or are you having to feel like you must alter your authentic self in certain ways before you can be around them and have to weigh every word?
Somethings to think on today …
~ XXOO Michelle
Your Healing Hour