Today as every other post, headline and news story is talking about the horrific law passed allowing abortion up to full term, my heart is deeply grieved because of this decision, but it also aches deeply for every woman and man that with each post and news story is brought back to a time of deep pain when they chose abortion.
No one chooses abortion lightly.
Fear is a powerful driving force and many are forced into making that decision. It’s never an easy decision.
I believe the best voices for the future of the unborn lies in the process of letting those that chose abortion know that there is forgiveness, wholeness and restoration available to them in Jesus Christ.
Once they are Restored – they will never want anyone to suffer as they have due to abortion.
Abortion affects people just like PTSD. It has long ranging effects.
Sadly, I have been speaking out about this to leaders and churches and communities and anyone that will listen, that abortion is as much a problem for the churched as the unchurched.
I did post abortion Bible Studies in my community through the local pregnancy center. More than half of those attending were daughters of Pastors, Deacons, Elders and Bishops … all forced to have their abortions due to the shame it would bring their fathers, families and communities.
They all either described how they worked and served hard in the Church trying to prove their good works afterwards or they simply left the church completely because of the hurt they felt because no one offered them anything other than judgement and condemnation.
The Worlds churches are full of wounded women and men sitting in congregations hurting deeply over this. Another Sanctity of Life sermon and Pro-Life rant will not heal them.
Almost all that I counseled were still holding onto their secrets and shame so tightly that many turned to various forms of counterfeit comforts – hard drugs, alcohol, pills or food to try to numb their deep pain. I was one of them too for almost 25 years.
Statistics show that almost 60% of female inmates in our prison systems have had an abortion.
Where there is a woman suffering – there is also many men suffering too.
Not every man is the driving force behind the choice to abort. Many men are deeply grieved over their parts or even lack of in the decision.
I once even heard of a young college girl that was adamant on choosing abortion and when asked why, she said that her Heavenly Father can forgive her but her earthly father said he would not forgive her if she didn’t choose abortion. Her earthly father was a prominent pastor in the community.
Today, as many people around the world are incensed by this decision, may we also be just as enraged and angry for God’s daughters and sons that have bought the lies that they are horrible murderers or people because of their choice to abort.
May we be led to help them receive forgiveness and wholeness instead of simply screaming about how horrible and wrong it is.
We ALL know how horrible it is – trust me. Oprah and Chelsea Handler and every pink hat wearer claiming rights to their choices and bodies will try to spin it differently – but it is never as simple or lighthearted as they claim it is.
May we be able to show them they are loved despite the choices they made and point them to the truth that abortion is not the unforgivable sin.
Shame can only survive in silence.
God forgave Moses and David for murder and He has forgiven me and will forgive ANYONE and EVERYONE that comes to Him and repents that have made that choice too.
Please hear me!
There is wholeness and life and life abundantly available after abortion.
We must shatter the silence and shame by allowing the Words of our testimony and the Blood of the Lamb to enable us to overcome and help others overcome.
We begin to repair our stories when we share our stories.
Yes, we must
Pray for the unborn,
Pray for the lawmakers,
but please don’t forget to
Pray for your fellow brothers and sisters that are suffering in shame and silence today.
Pray they reach out and know that they are worthy of love and forgiveness.
I am not here to say abortion is ok or that we don’t have a right to voice our righteous anger towards the killing of millions of babies every year …
No, please know and hear my heart-
I am here to say that we must do more – we can always do more than simply voicing our anger over abortion. We can be committed to help restore lives by helping anyone suffering from the affects of abortion to become forgiven, healed and whole. In doing so, we can help bring about great change to the very fabric of our Nation.
If one person is bound – we are all bound!
Contact me if you need prayer, resources, or help healing from abortion.
Together-let’s make a difference.
~ XXOO Michelle Bollom
This book in the lead photo is years in the making and I hope – Lord Willing, it will be finished this year.