This was a big area for me that I struggled in judgement in. I didn’t seem to extend grace to anyone that backed out of a commitment.
I had woundings from my childhood and marriage that I felt that broken promises had caused me great pain in my past so I built a hard spot for anyone else that didn’t keep their word or promises to me.
Now I am not talking about sometimes things come up and can’t be avoided. We need mercy and grace for those instances and sometimes it’s just simply dealing with our own warped and deceptive perception and emotions of not taking those instances personal.
It can’t always be avoided sometimes and I get that and know God is always in control and a Divine Detour could be in the works.
The Lord Willing Response -is a good start so you are not having to go back on your word if you struggle in the area of keeping your word-but don’t use it as an excuse either.
Also don’t be so bound that it is something you begrudgingly do or go against your peace gauge; you may be needing to step away or break a commitment in order to say your best yes for you or your family or even God.
What I am talking about is what I believe is a spirit that people operate in. They make big plans and promises consistently and even may vow their unending loyalty and commitment to you but are always backing out and usually in the very last minute with excuses after excuses and never follow through. They also have a quitter spirit and don’t like when you disagree with them.
They usually have offense issues and are offended easily and have perception issues too;their perception is so full of deception.
They also operate highly in paranoia and pity.
They perceive things and think that their discernment and perception is fact but it is so warped and wrapped up in their fickle fleshly emotions they can’t recognize it and have a hard time separating fantasy from reality. They like escapism.
They can also have confrontational, isolation and blame issues. They retreat offended then blame others for the distance they themselves created or they always want to force their opinions upon you to entice a confrontation. They can have an argumentative spirit too.
I have struggled with all of those at some time in my life too. I am not pointing fingers; this is a Divine Download to help me and others too.
This is not always a bad thing when you recognize someone operating in that spirit. It can be a good thing because once you recognize it you can set boundaries, pray to not get a spirit of criticism or judgement against them, but also rest assured in knowing that God is revealing and separating the wheat from the chaff for a reason.
You pray and love them but also know that they just can’t be relied upon so sometimes you have to love them from a healthy distance until they are willing to break free from it themselves.
Ask God to help you recognize the faithful from the flaky in your life.
(Joking! But hey, that really is a great prayer!)
If you suffer from this spirit – ask the Lord to help you break those patterns and start to follow through with what you say you will do.
Thankfully when we are not promise keepers – God is always a Promise Keeper!
~ XXOO Michelle Bollom