When We Don’t Understand 

As I sit here in my prayer corner thanking God for all the blessings He has given me, I am so grateful, but there is a deep sadness in my heart. Last night a friend of mine texted me that a man I highly respect in my company, lost his son in a car accident. He was only 22 years old and was on his way to college, when a truck hydroplaned in the rain, crossed the center line and hit him and his girlfriend head on! He was killed instantly and she survived and is in serious condition. Please keep them all in your prayers!

News like this is always shocking and cuts right to the core of your heart and a deep sadness overwhelms you. Thoughts begin to race through your mind of how tragic this is for their family and friends. I can’t even begin to imagine how it must feel for the parents and brothers and sisters to endure such a loss. Even though you may not know the person who passed, you still feel the deep sadness and have empathy for their loved ones. 

You can’t help but question, Why Lord? Why did this happen to such a young, vibrant young man, who had his whole life ahead of him? How could you let this happen? We can’t even begin to understand, yet we continue to try to figure it out.  


Scripture says in Proverbs 3:5, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”  

As Christians, we just have to trust that God loves us and has a greater plan and purpose and He will use everything for His glory. Even though we cannot possibly understand, His plans are for good and not evil.

The Message, Romans 11:34 captures it so well, “Is there anyone around who can explain God? Anyone smart enough to tell him what to do? Anyone who has done him a huge favor that God has to ask his advice? Everything comes from him; everything happens through him; everything ends up in him; Always glory! Always praise! 

In devastating times like this, we can find peace and comfort through him and only Him, nothing can heal a broken heart, but the love of Jesus. He is our strength in the darkness, and he is the light at the end of the tunnel. Only he can take away the pain of losing someone we love so dearly. 

  Our peace, comfort, strength and joy comes in The Word of the Lord:


“Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles” 2 Corinthians 1:3

“Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always.” Psalm 105:4


 “The joy of the Lord is your strength”, Nehemiah 8:10

“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” Psalm 23:4

“I also saw that no one can understand all that God does. People can try and try to understand the things that happen here on earth, but they cannot. There may be wise people who claim to understand the meaning of these things, but they are wrong. No one can understand it all. ” Ecclesiastes 8:17

Later in the afternoon, I received another text saying that he donated organs to save 75 lives. One life was lost, but many, many lives were blessed!  

Deb Hicks