Weeping, crying, squalling, verklempt, tear jerker, snotted up…. What word do you use to describe when you are overcome by emotions and tears start to fall from your eyes?

I thought about myself and how sometimes a good ole cry can just kind of re shift things into place. I also thought of the times I really wept for a season during extreme grief over the loss of someone I love.
I even thought about how we can cry sometimes for no known reason at all.

Some people are easy to cry and some people cry all the time, while some people rarely cry.

I think things have come a long way from people viewing crying as weakness. We can empathize and connect with someone who genuinely shows emotions and we can spot a fake pretty easy too. We even judge the validity of someone’s story at times by the lack of tears shown.
( I was thinking of those Dateline mysteries when they show no tears. My family loves a good murder mystery and we are usually right on based on lack of tears)

But the other day I was reading John 11 when I came to the shortest scripture verse “Jesus wept. ” ~ John 11:35.

I wondered what was Jesus thinking when He was overcome with emotion to the point of weeping?

Why did He weep? Why was it important to record this short little verse?

Did He weep because of His great love for Lazarus? Did He weep because He was 4 days late and they had already given up hope in Jesus and put Lazarus in the tomb; with a stone rolled in front? Did He weep because they doubted His ability ? Did He weep because they did not believe He was the Son of God, the one the Father sent? The Great I am? Did He weep because He was overcome with the Presence of God working through Him about to perform one of the greatest miracles ever recorded?

It doesn’t really say why He wept, Just Jesus wept.

So I pondered over this a little while longer and I think possibly He was overcome with all those emotions and feelings is why He wept.

But wow-I then read what happens next …

just 5 verses down the Bible says:

Then Jesus said to her, “Remember what I told you? I said that if you believed, you would see God’s divine greatness.” So they moved the stone away from the entrance. Then Jesus looked up and said, “Father, I thank you that you heard me. I know that you always hear me. But I said these things because of the people here around me. I want them to believe that you sent me.” After Jesus said this he called in a loud voice, “Lazarus, come out!” The dead man came out. His hands and feet were wrapped with pieces of cloth. He had a handkerchief covering his face. Jesus said to the people, “Take off the cloth and let him go.” (‭John‬ ‭11‬:‭40-44‬ ERV)


I usually need a Benadryl and a nap after I cry. I can also linger with my sad squalled up self for at least a day or so feeling sorry for myself, and if it was a good tear jerker that got me good and snotted up, well you might as well count me out the rest of the day.

But Not Jesus,
Did you catch this-

Jesus wept, then He reminds the crowd of His promise if they believe they will see the Glory of God, God’s Divine Greatness! He gives Thanks to the Father not just because the Father hears but so all the bystanders will know He is the Son of God that the Father sent. Then Jesus
performs the miracle of resurrecting Lazarus from the grave by a simple command of Come Out!

I am still curled up with my nose looking like Rudolph and trying to catch my breath, but I read here what all Jesus did after He wept. Wow!

I so appreciate God unwrapping these verses for me. It helps me to see that Jesus was all man and felt the same emotions we do and that He too does weep, But what I really love is we don’t have to squall like a heathen with no hope. We could learn a lot from these verses and Jesus.

When you feel like it is hopeless, too late, that no one is supporting or believing in you, you can weep, get that cry out, but remember to keep going. Clear your mind and re shift yourself and declare the promises of God over your situation, Always Thanking God for hearing us. Show others God’s Divine Greatness!
Keep Believing!
and most importantly let us dry those tears and get busy doing the Fathers business.

And if that doesn’t work for you, try this awesome Promise:

Weeping may endure for the night, but Joy comes in the morning! -Psalm 30:5

Be Encouraged! Joy is coming!

XXOO~Michelle Bollom


Grab A Key


(Keys hanging in a jewelry shop located in the old city of Jerusalem)

The function of a key as a noun is as follows:
a small piece of shaped metal with incisions cut to fit the wards of a particular lock, and that is inserted into a lock and turned to open or close.

A key will not work if it does not match to its lock.
In fact a key is fashioned and designed to fit each particular lock.

The door, safe, lockbox or gate will NOT open if locked and the correct key is not used. No matter how hard you try!!!!

With all those fun facts being said, let’s look at one place where keys are mentioned in the Bible.

Check out Matthew 16:13-19
Now when Jesus came into the parts of Caesarea Philippi, he asked his disciples, saying, Who do men say that the Son of man is? (‭Matthew‬ ‭16‬:‭13‬ ASV)
Make a long story short!! Peter got it right away with saying that Jesus was the Christ, the Son of the Living God!!

It’s starts with having a revelation from above of who Jesus really is to you. That revelation has to come from above. Jesus even reminds Peter further along in the passage that the His Father revealed this to Peter.
With that being said Jesus proceeds to tell Peter….
Matthew 16:18-20
“And I also say unto thee, that thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of Hades shall not prevail against it. I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.”

Now keep in mind there are a couple sermons just in those two verses alone. But let’s just focus on the word, “key”.
Jesus is giving the specific tangible piece of metal that was cut to perfectly open up the kingdom of heaven to Peter.
Peter was the only one of the disciples at the time of asking who truly got the revelation of that Jesus was the Son of God. You know the One that Jews had been eagerly waiting thousands of years to come and save them from their enemies.
I know that as a follower of Christ being discipled by His Word and teachings that I can qualify to hold those same keys.
Part of the Lord’s Prayer that we more than likely can all recite from memory goes along this theme.
Jesus encouraging us to model our prayers after The Lord’s Prayer.
“Thy kingdom come thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

That there is a pretty big key in my mind’s eye!!! Imagine a key to the door of the kingdom of heaven.

It’s my understanding that we have permission from Jesus to have thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. We as followers of Jesus seeking and knocking hold the key along with Peter to heaven that involves some binding and loosing.

Pause and think about what that means to you? Trust me, I have known these verses for over 30 years and I am just NOW receiving the understanding of the key and starting to turn the lock to loose heaven all over the earth.
(Old, slow learner would be me)
I never asked before now. dahhhh!!!

Matthew 7:7
“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:”

Get out your key and open that door and see what you discover on the other side.

Light On,
Kelley Allison

Enjoy The Journey


Sometimes we are so caught up in getting where we want to be in life or what we want for our lives that we don’t enjoy the journey there.
At the time our journey may not seem enjoyable, rather more like it’s full of inconvenient pit stops …or unplanned problems that come along our way. But really, those inconveniences and hiccups make the journey more meaningful. They bring about the change, the transformation, the game changers!

Remember what God promises us:

“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.”
~Isaiah 43:19 MSG

“…Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how He did it. Because He never lost sight of where He was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—He could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now He’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God. ~Hebrews 12:2 MSG

Stephanie Wanic
God’s Beauty Secrets
#godlywisdom #godsbeautysecrets
#keepgoing #journey

How Can It Be

“How Can It Be” by Lauren Daigle is my worship jam for the moment!! The words are so powerful, so full of emotion, and the song touches on the true vulnerability we feel as we fall more and more in love with Jesus. We ask ourselves, how can… it be you love me so much? How can it be that I’m truly free from all this world tries to entangle me in, all that I feel I fall short in?
Our love relationship with Jesus is the most profound love story we will ever experience for ourselves and that we witness in the lives of those around us. You can pretty much pinpoint the women you come into contact with that have been touched by the love of their Savior…been saved, rescued, redeemed and restored by the One who gave His life to give us ours.

I gave my life over to Christ (or whatever you like to call it) only a month after winning Miss Texas USA over 10 years ago. It was one of the happiest times in my life as it should seem, winning the crown I’d been chasing for 5 years. But you know what? I was so empty. So thirsty for what the world had to offer me… desperate for love, acclamation and worthiness thinking a crown and all that came with it would help fill a hole in my heart that went all the way to China! Hee hee!

No really, I’m so thankful for the moment that both a humble pastor, and one of God’s most selfless servants, that I now call one of my best friends, led me in prayer and helped me humble myself to enter into the most lasting relationship I have ever found myself in.

God’s Word promises us that He will never abandon His own special possession…that is us. That is You. That is me.

“How blessed the man you train, GOD, the woman you instruct in your Word, Providing a circle of quiet within the clamor of evil, while a jail is being built for the wicked. GOD will never walk away from his people, never desert his precious people.” ~Psalm 94:12-15 MSG

“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
~Psalm 34:18 NLT

The Bible tells us, “He promises to ‘be close to the brokenhearted’ and to be our source of power, courage, and wisdom.” I’ll take it…I need it!

~ Stephanie Wanic / God’s Beauty Secrets

Listen to the song here ( you will notice it was referenced yesterday too by Kelley Allison)
How Can It Be Song

Move The Cheese!

“You say I am free how can it be?”

We feel unworthy, stained, broken and just plain not good enough at times. Especially if we play the “Let’s Compare Ourselves” game. We look at others who appear to be easily “all that” and feel “not that”. Ladies, we are the best players of this game.

Stop and REFUSE to participate.
Homey, don’t play that!! Boink!!!!

The truth is that we are ALL broken. We all have issues, some days more outstanding than others!!
Choose ye this day whom ye will serve!!! Are you going to accept the lies that encircle you with the chains of insecurity or the truth that sets you free?
Jesus, I choose to compare my life to what you have done for me!!

Listen to the words from the song, “Can It Be” by Lauren Daigle
“Jesus you plead my cause….
you gave your life to give me mine…..
You break my chains you overcome!!!”

Roll the dice and make a move to the link below and listen as the truth lands you on a new space with the draw of “get out of jail free” card.

Move the Cheese!!!

Isaiah 61:3
to provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, a mantle of praise instead of a spirit of despair.” “Then people will call them “Oaks of Righteousness”, “The Planting of the LORD”, in order to display his splendor.


Light On,
Kelley Allison

Are you hearing or listening?

Recently I had a Pastor friend post on Facebook asking if Hearing was different than Listening.

I did not really think too much about it and simply typed back this response:

“I would say for me simply hearing is head knowledge and listening is when it becomes heart knowledge.
We can hear a lot of things; but when we truly listen is when we get it at the deepest heart level.
Hearing can be done without focus and with distractions all around, but listening is more focused hearing when it is quieter and less distractions around.
So listening for me is the quiet focused heart application of hearing.
Only in listening can I hear the Holy Spirit more clearly.”

Then he referenced these verses:

I can guarantee this truth: Many prophets and many of God’s people longed to see what you see but didn’t see it, to hear what you hear but didn’t hear it. ~Matthew 13:17 GWT

Then the people who have God’s approval will shine like the sun in their Father’s kingdom. Let the person who has ears listen! ~Matthew 13:43 GWT

Matthew 13:43 refers to Mark 4:9 which says “And he said, “Whoever has ears to hear had better listen!” NET

Some translations say hear while some say listen? They use the two words almost interchangeably, but are they really different? So I dug a little deeper on the hear vs listen idea….

The Pulpit Commentary on Mark 4:9 says:
Verse 9. – And he said, Who hath ears to hear, let him hear. St. Luke (Luke 8:8) bus a stronger word than (ἔλεγεν) “he said.” He (Luke 8:8) has (ἐφώνει) “he cried.” Our Lord uses this expression, “he that hath ears to hear,” etc, when the subject-matter is figurative or obscure, as though to rouse the attention of his hearers. He has “ears to hear” who diligently attends to the words of Christ, that he may ponder and obey them. Many heard him out of curiosity, that they might bear something new, or learned, or brilliant; not that they might lay to heart the things which they heard, and endeavor to practice them in their lives. And so it is with those who go to hear sermons on account of the fame of the preacher, and not that they may learn to amend their lives; and thus the words of Jehovah to Ezekiel (Ezekiel 33:32) are fulfilled,
“Yes, to them you are like a singer of love songs who has a beautiful voice and plays skillfully on an instrument. They hear your words, but they don’t obey them.” ~ Ezekiel 33:32 HCSB

So lastly I googled and these are a few things I found on the question, Is there a difference between hearing and listening:

“Do you think there is a difference between hearing and listening? You are right, there is! Hearing is simply the act of perceiving sound by the ear. If you are not hearing-impaired, hearing simply happens. Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do. Listening requires concentration so that your brain processes meaning from words and sentences. Listening leads to learning.
Most people tend to be “hard of listening” rather than “hard of hearing.” ~University of Minnesota Duluth

Hearing and listening have quite different meanings. Hearing is a passive occurrence that requires no effort. Listening, on the other hand, is a conscious choice that demands your attention and concentration. ~Karen Hellesvig-Gaskell

So bottom line, I think I was pretty right in my initial thoughts, and there are big differences in the two.

What are your thoughts on this?

Lord, May we all learn to Listen and not simply just Hear.

XXOO, Michelle Bollom


Promises, Promises

What do you think of when you hear the word Promise? Do you think of excitement and hope, or maybe disappointment because you recall a time a promise was broken?

Let me tell you where to find only those exciting Hope-filled Promises….
The type of Promises that never disappoint us.

The Bible!

God is not only a Promise maker, He is a Promise Keeper!

In God’s Word you will find countless promises.

There is one surely to fit whatever you may be going through.

Open up your Bible and seek out His Amazing Promises.

Please comment below with your favorite God Promise!



Don’t Give Up!

This scripture has been popping up all over the place for me lately! I’m adding it to my memory and going to pray it over my marriage and whatever else arises!

We must keep on doing what we know is good… Good in God’s eyes and the good that we know He’s asked us to do; even if there is no sign of reward, change, result or return on investment!

That’s what I call good ole’fashioned diligence baby!

#godsbeautysecrets #beautyqueenwisdom

Stephanie Wanic
Founder God’s Beauty Secrets

Connect with Stephanie at God’s Beauty Secrets Facebook page.



I have been OutClassed!

Ever see this verse?  “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” ~ Proverbs 31:27.  What about in this translation? “She looks discretely to the affairs of her household, and she is never lazy.”  Ouch!

 I used to really feel guilty when I saw this verse.  Today when I read this verse my first reaction was “yep I killed it Monday cleaning part of my house and mopping floors. I was not idle at all.”   “Yep Tuesday I got my work out in and washed some clothes and made an amazing dinner after hosting bible study at my house..Booyah!”   I made my bed, decorative pillows and all the last two days!

It is easy to get boastful and prideful on those days we are killing it with so much energy and checking things off our to-do lists left and right.  But today, I sit still in my PJs.  My kids have been gone for over two hours now and I am still sitting here reading my Bible, praying, answering a few messages, writing this blog.   And you want to know what?  I don’t feel guilty at all.  I know God still loves me on these days as well as the days I am at peak performance.  Actually He probably loves me more on days like today because that is when I really soak up all the beautiful Promises He has for me.  

I expanded on this whole verse, You know the Proverbs 31 Woman.  The famous verses making all us women feel like total slackers.  Yep this used to get me so discouraged.  Not anymore.  God makes us all unique.  We all have gifting’s and abilities especially suited for us.  Who cares if someone does all those things?  I for one think she needed to maybe “lay down the law” and let her husband and kids know that if everyone lives in it, then everyone should pull their weight!  Sure,  I can check off a few of her characteristics and strive to achieve in some other areas, but come on, I don’t go buying fields, but I did buy my husband a great used car recently all by myself.   Up before dawn? I get up first but it is normally around 5:30 and I keep trying to push it to 6 and I have been known to get everyone out the door and lay back down. Gasp! I know….Such a slacker!  I don’t enjoy knitting and sewing.  Nope today I am still undressed so missed that “up and dressed” part today.  The next one that gets me is not in a hurry to call it quits….uhmm I am always in a hurry to call it quits for the day, I am worn out and like my sleep.  I am not diligent in homemaking, I try, I really do, but years of having a maid spoiled me and I just really do not enjoy it so I am blessed God gave me twins and they are huge helps around the house and I no longer feel the need to have a spotless house.  I like a house lived in.   So what am I trying to get at?  Don’t condemn yourselves ladies, don’t compare or try to compete with a Proverbs 31 Woman, or any woman.  That is a guideline and not meant to be achieved perfectly this side of Heaven.  Sure we need balance and need to be striving to be better today than we were yesterday, but don’t feel guilty if the chores are undone,  If you have not got in your work out, If you took a nap or went back to sleep, or if you spent longer in your quiet time.  Yes, the Proverbs 31 Woman may have OutClassed us all, but hey, I will gladly rest in God, soak up His promises, and rejoice that He will work it all out and make us the women He wants us to be.   He knows best and can use a day in your pjs as well as those days you killed your to-do lists.   XXOO, Michelle Bollom


 Hymn to a Good Wife

10-31A good woman is hard to find,

and worth far more than diamonds.

Her husband trusts her without reserve,

and never has reason to regret it.

Never spiteful, she treats him generously

all her life long.

She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,

and enjoys knitting and sewing.

She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places

and brings back exotic surprises.

She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast

for her family and organizing her day.

She looks over a field and buys it,

then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.

First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,

rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.

She senses the worth of her work,

is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.

She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,

diligent in homemaking.

She’s quick to assist anyone in need,

reaches out to help the poor.

She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;

their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.

She makes her own clothing,

and dresses in colorful linens and silks.

Her husband is greatly respected

when he deliberates with the city fathers.

She designs gowns and sells them,

brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.

Her clothes are well-made and elegant,

and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.

When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,

and she always says it kindly.

She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,

and keeps them all busy and productive.

Her children respect and bless her;

her husband joins in with words of praise:

“Many women have done wonderful things,

but you’ve outclassed them all!”

Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.

The woman to be admired and praised

is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.

Give her everything she deserves!

Festoon her life with praises!


Matthew Henry’s Concise Commentary Proverbs 31:10-31 31:10-31 This is the description of a virtuous woman of those days, but the general outlines equally suit every age and nation. She is very careful to recommend herself to her husband’s esteem and affection, to know his mind, and is willing that he rule over her. 1. She can be trusted, and he will leave such a wife to manage for him. He is happy in her. And she makes it her constant business to do him good. 2. She is one that takes pains in her duties, and takes pleasure in them. She is careful to fill up time, that none be lost. She rises early. She applies herself to the business proper for her, to women’s business. She does what she does, with all her power, and trifles not. 3. She makes what she does turn to good account by prudent management. Many undo themselves by buying, without considering whether they can afford it. She provides well for her house. She lays up for hereafter. 4. She looks well to the ways of her household, that she may oblige all to do their duty to God and one another, as well as to her. 5. She is intent upon giving as upon getting, and does it freely and cheerfully. 6. She is discreet and obliging; every word she says, shows she governs herself by the rules of wisdom. She not only takes prudent measures herself, but gives prudent advice to others. The law of love and kindness is written in the heart, and shows itself in the tongue. Her heart is full of another world, even when her hands are most busy about this world. 7. Above all, she fears the Lord. Beauty recommends none to God, nor is it any proof of wisdom and goodness, but it has deceived many a man who made his choice of a wife by it. But the fear of God reigning in the heart, is the beauty of the soul; it lasts for ever. 8. She has firmness to bear up under crosses and disappointments. She shall reflect with comfort when she comes to be old, that she was not idle or useless when young. She shall rejoice in a world to come. She is a great blessing to her relations. If the fruit be good, the tree must have our good word. But she leaves it to her own works to praise her. Every one ought to desire this honour that cometh from God; and according to this standard we all ought to regulate our judgments. This description let all women daily study, who desire to be truly beloved and respected, useful and honorable. This passage is to be applied to individuals, but may it not also be applied to the church of God, which is described as a virtuous spouse? God by his grace has formed from among sinful men a church of true believers, to possess all the excellences here described.

Restored, Michelle Bollom’s Broken Girl Story

So honored to have my story featured on Broken Girl today. I hope you are blessed by it. XXOO Michelle Bollom

Broken Girl


To fully understand my story, you have to know my history with brokenness. I was a broken girl from as far back as I can remember. My first fracturing came when my parents divorced when I was too young to even remember my parents together. My dad got custody of my two sisters and me while my two brothers went to live with my mom. Little did I know, we would not see our mother again for several years. My dad was broken. My mom was broken. My whole family was broken.

All the years of fighting and the tug of war of divorce left a vulnerable child without adequate protection who became an easy target for others. The next fracturing came from sexual abuse from not just one, but also numerous people who were in my life from the age of seven to around twelve. From that abuse I became good at self-blame and began my search for love in…

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