~Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens a friend’s character. ~Proverbs 27:17 ISV
You know the movie “The Help” The famous part where the nanny tells the little girl you is kind you is smart you is pretty you is important…
Well some grown woman need to be told You is nasty you is grouchy you is ugly and it ain’t all about you!
Every group has one. You know the kind.
You could powder their butts all day long and they would still be chapped about something.
They can’t celebrate others, they are jealous and resentful. They easily get mad and offended and often bolt from the sandbox or isolate themselves so people will come running after them. If no one runs after them they always show back up because they thrive on this type of behavior. They are usually angry people but pretend to be meek and sweet. They get upset if they did not get invited somewhere or if they did not know some bit of information. They make the group afraid to not include her or want to keep secret their plans for fear of this person. That person is usually so skilled in sarcasm and they love to shoot sarcastic digs trying to hurt others in what they think is a subtle way. When you call them on their behavior they profusely deny it and constantly use health or tough situations as an excuse for acting badly or justifying their constant bad moods and words. They never fully take ownership for their part in anything. They are big time blamers. They operate in denial or a false self and try to pretend they are being honest and true. They turn on the water works as a manipulation tactic when no one is taking their bait.
Some of you right about now are nodding your heads and almost feeling your energy drain from your body because you know all too well these types of people.
We can all change. We all have to want to.
The person I described above is like the man on his mat for 38 years, they don’t want to get well. You can shout at them over and over to get up, you could pick them up and cannon ball right into the healing waters with them and they will still be complaining that something was wrong or something or someone prevented their healing, or someone got more than they did. Sometimes they appear to be healed and are all smiles and lovely for a few days or weeks, than they go back to their mat and just start to complain and act the same way all over again. I am here today to share what God spoke to my heart. Only Iron Sharpens Iron. When you keep allowing someone like this to wreck your circle of friends or groups with all their drama and pettiness you are expending precious energy and time focused on trying to make sure that person is not getting upset, that your armor is taking on too many dings and your sword is dull from all those dings of distractions and lack of sharpening. The enemy can swoop in and destroy you, your circle, and your group because you are all side tracked by that constant complainer that everyone walks on eggshells around. I love the quote by Joyce Meyer “You can be pitiful or powerful but you can’t be both!” God is asking us to RSVP with a big fat NO to their next Pity Party. God is calling us to not entertain this type of drama or behaviors anymore. It is time to set some boundaries and use our big girl words with them. If they still don’t want to be sharpened and change their ways then it is time for the Gift of Goodbye! It is time to prune some branches girlies and get rid of those sucker branches. You or your groups can’t bear fruit or grow with them always sucking the life out of everything. Not everyone can go where God is calling you.The enemy is real and it is time to recognize that this is bondage by the enemy to your circles and groups. I personally don’t want to miss out on anything God has for me by being bound to a toxic person. I want to make sure my armor is complete and my sword is fully sharpened by strong likeminded women. I believe in restoration, not simply preserving.It is time to Rise Up Higher! It is time for some to grow up and start acting like a child of the Most High King and not just a big ole “King Baby”. ~ XXOO Michelle Bollom
Characteristics of a “King Baby”- Simple list: immaturity – egocentricity , falsely Humble, self-loving, omnipotent, arrogant inferiority complex
Expanded list: • Tries to work people against each other to get their own way • seek approval and frequently lose their own identities in the process • able to make good first impression but unable to follow through • have difficulty accepting personal criticism and become threatened and angry when criticized • have addictive personalities and are driven to extremes • are often immobilized by anger and frustration and are rarely satisfied • are usually lonely even when surrounded by people • are chronic complainers who blame others for what is wrong in their lives • feel unappreciated and think they don’t fit • see the world as a jungle filled with selfish people who aren’t there for them • see everything as a catastrophe, a life or death satiation • judge life in absolutes: black and white, right and wrong • live in the past, fearful of the future • have strong feeling of dependence and exaggerated fears of abandonment • fear failure and rejections and don’t try new things that they might not do well • are obsessed with money and material things • dream big plans and schemes and have little ability to make them happen • prefer to charm superiors and intimidate subordinates • often become addicted to excitement • hold emotional pain within
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